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That is a one liner, not a story! Please explain the whole situation of how you came to find out and what has happened since.
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My sister-in-law came over to show me her pics from her vacation. Once done she asked me, is there a problem between you and my brother with and for some reason I said an affair? She then looked at me and said, I've got to tell you something. And then began to tell me that my husband at one point while at a pool, T O W jumped up in his arms and wrapped her legs around him and her husband was there and corrected it. I was boken at that point and she said that you need to speak to these 2 friends of your's. I did and they told me some things as well and that person said talk to our senior pastor and his wife. My husband was given a choice to stop the relationship and tell me or step down from deacon at church. He looked at pastor and said I step down and then he told me that he stepped down because he was being deployed, not because of that relationship. I have confronted him since I've known and now he want talk with me.
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ok, thanks. And how long ago was this? Is your H still in touch with the OW?
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I found out last week Tuesday and I believe he still in contact with her
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I found out last week Tuesday and I believe he still in contact with her How long has your sister in law known?
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when we were talking before it came out, while Skyping with him, he is always typing and I believe talking with her.
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A couple weeks before me and she wanted to make sure of some things before talking with me.
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How long has your sister in law known? When did the OW wrap herself around your husband in the incident you described above?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I also believe that he has a new phone and will not give me the number to it. I asked and he did not deny it by saying he doesn't have a phone.
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Sis-in-law knew 2 weeks before telling me. And the incident happened in August 2010 and the texting has continued since then as well between them both. What he has been doing has been while I've been at work. when I am around they acted normal
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ok, your next steps are to:
1. copy and paste the OW's facebook contacts into a WORD doc and save them
2. prioritize them in order starting with her parents, close family, then married friends
3. write an exposure letter to the Ow's friends, using the sample from my thread - POST IT HERE FIRST AND GET FEEDBACK
4. Write a letter to the IG telling him all about the affair. Ask him to intervene and issue a no contact order
5. ask your husbands mother to call up that old wh*re and run her off - she can tell her to never darken her doorstep!
6. ask all your friends and family to use their influence to persuade your husband to end his affair. Ask them to send him an email. Have your sons do the same.
Can you do all this?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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How close does the OW live from you? Do you live in the same town?
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