Good! I was worried about ya.

You're much stronger than you know. After all, you can tap into the greatest Power Source in the whole universe.

WH, I'm glad you haven't resumed contact. You ARE the strong person I perceived you to be! Hang tough, it'll get better, you just have to see it out.

WHiP, you don't know how much strength it takes just to remain in NC. And some days, as long as you didn't have contact with your WH, you can count that a SUCCESSFUL Plan B day. There are going to be days when you feel somewhat better, some when you feel TONNES better, and some where you believe it is the worst you have felt yet.

WHIP, you know how much I care about you and your littles. I'm so sorry you're hurting all over again. This man Frollo is not the man you married. He's a selfish, entitled, wayward who now lives in denial. He is appalled that none of his pretty words have worked on you once he realized that you weren't actually being subjected to his gas-lighting prose. He is a manipulator of the highest quality. He plays head games and thought he was weaseling in with his poor widdle me antics. As your former IM, I can assure you he was playing games this whole time. You have been protected in your Plan B and he has thrown you for a loop with this divorce filing as he knew it would. Don't give in now.

A repentant and honorable man would be doing everything in his power to protect his family, wife included. He wants to look like the Good guy. He's not fooling anyone. I suspect that he has gas lighted mommy and daddy into believing his truth and they've bought into it hook, line, and sinker. Once the truth is out, he may find his bottom and it won't be pretty. It may be too late as he has done too much damage, but with you in Plan B, you will come through this a survivor. You will see this Frollo person for who he really is. So will others. His children will grow up and figure out who really let them down and destroyed the family they knew.

There is still a possibility of things turning around but please don't peek out there to check. You will know when he's for real, and he's not right now. He will have to answer some day because as a pastor, he had a double duty, and he failed. Is still failing. My heart is breaking for you and your sweet little children. You are strong but God is much stronger. Continue to trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding. He's there and he hears the cry of your heart. Be wise and protect yourself with the legal system.

Hang in there friend. This is far from over.

You're doing good. Stay dark, stay sane. That ought to be a T-shirt.

Whip, what's going on sweetie? Can you please update? You know what I've been dealing with but you are never far from my mind. FROLLO brought out the big guns by filing but I hope you stuck to Plan B. even with the filing, can you counter file for divorce on the grounds of adultery even if you're in a no-fault state as opposed to going along with a simple dissolution? Actually, you can file anything you want, even if your state doesn't recognize adultery as a ground, and it will become a matter of public record. The Court won't reject your filing, they just won't rule based on adultery.

Whip, make him earn his way out. You fighting him will be costly for him, and from what I know about him, he won't be happy to spend the extra money on a full-out divorce. Have you found an attorney to take your case? As a single mom with no means of support you can probably file an affidavit of inability to pay court costs and he'll either have to foot the bill or the courts just won't expect you to pay any fees. Drag this out hon, but stay in Plan B. please! You deserve a man who treats you well and with respect.

Keep posting, isolation is the worst possible choice. I still have hope for your marriage, honestly, but FROLLO needs to fall hard.

We all have a choice, fall on the Rock, or have the Rock fall on us. Fortunately, the Rock is on our side, and will do everything heaven can dream of to bring us to the point of being broken.