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Thought about posting up poems... but I can't write without my mind going to dark places... so instead I'll share the poetry of others; music.
Music is a HUGE part of my life. I played trumpet, baritone, and suzaphone/bass recorder up until high school. Heck, DD14 even followed suit and picked up the trumpet (thought it's difficult with braces!).
My tastes range all over the place, so be prepared.
For starters, Say You'll Haunt Me by Stone Sour. I love the energy of the song. It lifts the lyrics and lends them a drive. As if the singer is down and broken, but refuses to stay down, refuses to accept his fate - or he's a stalker! O_o
Little supernovas in my head Little soft pulses in my dead Little souvenirs and secrets shared Little off guard and unprepared
I was never good enough to find I was never bad enough to mind In the middle I will do my best Take me in your arms and leave the rest
I will give you anything to
Say you want to stay, you want me to Say you'll never die, you'll always haunt me I want to know I belong to you Say you'll haunt me
Together, together we'll be together, together forever
Little variations on my page Little doors open on my cage Little time has come and gone so far Little by little who you are
I can see the patterns on your face I can see the miracles I trace Symmetry in shadows I can't hide I JUST WANT TO BE RIGHT BY YOUR SIDE
I will give you everything to
Say you want to stay you want me too Say you'll never die, you'll always haunt me I want to know I belong to you Say you'll haunt me (2x)
Together, together we'll be together, together forever I BELONG TO YOU (2x)
Little supernovas in my head Little soft pulses in my dead Little souvenirs and secrets shared Little off guard and unprepared
I will give you anything to I will give you everything to
Say you want to stay you want me too Say you'll never die you'll always haunt me I want to know I belong to you Say you'll haunt me (2x)
Together, together we'll be together, together forever I BELONG TO YOU
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
lightning crashes, a new mother cries her placenta falls to the floor the angel opens her eyes the confusion sets in before the doctor can even close the door
lightning crashes, an old mother dies her intentions fall to the floor the angel closes her eyes the confusion that was hers belongs now, to the baby down the hall
oh now feel it comin' back again like a rollin' thunder chasing the wind forces pullin' from the center of the earth again I can feel it.
lightning crashes, a new mother cries this moment she's been waiting for the angel opens her eyes pale blue colored iris, presents the circle and puts the glory out to hide, hide
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
I don't know why, but this song snapped me out of my initial pity party... and I was just overwhelmed with a sense that I would personally thrive no matter what.
Bury all your secrets in my skin Come away with innocence, and leave me with my sins The air around me still feels like a cage And love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again...
So if you love me, let me go. And run away before I know. My heart is just too dark to care. I can't destroy what isn't there. Deliver me into my fate - If I'm alone I cannot hate I don't deserve to have you... My smile was taken long ago If I can change I hope I never know
I still press your letters to my lips And cherish them in parts of me that savor every kiss I couldn't face a life without your light But all of that was ripped apart... when you refused to fight
So save your breath, I will not hear. I think I made it very clear. You couldn't hate enough to love. Is that supposed to be enough? I only wish you weren't my friend. Then I could hurt you in the end. I never claimed to be a saint... My own was banished long ago It took the death of hope to let you go
So break yourself against my stones And spit your pity in my soul You never needed any help You sold me out to save yourself And I won't listen to your shame You ran away - you're all the same Angels lie to keep control... My love was punished long ago If you still care, don't ever let me know If you still care, don't ever let me know...
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
THanks... This song is my Wedding song .. However .. its a newer version of the song because it came out after my wedding. I wish this version of the song was out when i got married. It reflected the attitude of my wife and I in regards to how we viewed what everyone else though about us being together.(they didnt want us to be since we got together at 15 and 16 and greatly insisted we not date. But we showed them!) Its been our mantra ever since ... and it supports POJA!
So close no matter how far Couldn't be much more from the heart Forever trusting who we are And nothing else matters
Never opened myself this way Life is ours, we live it our way All these words I don't just say And nothing else matters
Trust I seek and I find in you Every day for us something new Open mind for a different view And nothing else matters
Never cared for what they do Never cared for what they know But I know
So close no matter how far Couldn't be much more from the heart Forever trusting who we are And nothing else matters
Never cared for what they do Never cared for what they know But I know
I Never opened myself this way Life is ours, we live it our way All these words I don't just say And nothing else matters
Trust I seek and I find in you Every day for us something new Open mind for a different view And nothing else matters
Never cared for what they say Never cared for games they play Never cared for what they do Never cared for what they know And I know, yeah!
(solo)
So close no matter how far Couldn't be much more from the heart Forever trusting who we are And nothing else matters
Edit: I still get shivers when i listen to it ... when they added the Orchistra to the song .. it added a new dynamic and more power to the song than it had previously with the original version. The song is very powerful and moving for both my wife and I.
Atreyu - My Fork In The Road (My Back, Your Knife)
So here we are again The same fork in the road I hate you. You love me This story's getting old The day that I opened up You shut me out for good Forgive, forget, FiretrUCK you You are a liar and a wh***
So take what you want and leave You'll never get another part of...
I remember the day that I thought I would be free I poured out my soul to you Exposed everything I take it out, My heart's broke My hand is much the same I did my best to drink you away
So take what you want and leave You'll never get another part of...
You are poison on man's lips Lured in by the curves of your hips Come here boy, stand by me Look my way, have another drink
I should have got up... I should have got up and left you
And I will never ever be your lover again As far as I'm concerned, we are not even friends This may not seem to subtle to you The point I'm trying to make is we are completely through
So take what you want and leave You'll never get another part of...
You are poison on man's lips Lured in by the curves of your hips Come here boy, stand by me Look my way, have another drink
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
The day came and passed with me being buried in work.
I took an extra shift for that Saturday with my home health patient... spent the day playing Xbox w/ my patient (a 10-year old boy, who is elated to have at least one male nurse) and his 6-year old brother.
We went out to dinner and then had drinks with my coworkers after dinner.
Is it wierd that I prefer her being buddy-buddy with the women that I work with rather than anyone she works with?
I'm not buddy-buddy with my coworkers... but that's because they are mostly women.
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
The day came and passed with me being buried in work.
I took an extra shift for that Saturday with my home health patient... spent the day playing Xbox w/ my patient (a 10-year old boy, who is elated to have at least one male nurse) and his 6-year old brother.
We went out to dinner and then had drinks with my coworkers after dinner.
Is it wierd that I prefer her being buddy-buddy with the women that I work with rather than anyone she works with?
I'm not buddy-buddy with my coworkers... but that's because they are mostly women.
No it's not weird.
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
I didn't hear what you were saying. I live on raw emotion baby I answer questions never maybe And I'm not kind if you betray me. So who the hell are you to say we Never would have made it babe.
[Bridge]
If you needed love Well then ask for love Could have given love Now I�m taking love And it�s not my fault Cause you both deserve What is coming now So don�t say a word
[Chorus]
Wake up call Caught you in the morning with another one in my bed Don't you care about me anymore? Don�t you care about me? I don't think so. Six foot tall Came without a warning so I had to shoot him dead He won't come around here anymore Come around here? I don't think so.
[Breakdown]
Would have bled to make you happy You didn't need to treat me that way And now you beat me at my own game And now I find you sleeping soundly And your lovers screaming loudly Hear a sound and hit the ground
[Bridge]
If you needed love Well then ask for love Could have given love Now I�m taking love And it�s not my fault Cause you both deserve What�s coming now
So don�t say a word
[Chorus]
Wake up call Caught you in the morning with another one in my bed Don't you care about me anymore? Don�t you care about me? I don't think so. Six foot tall Came without a warning so I had to shoot him dead He won't come around here anymore Come around here? I don�t feel so bad, I don�t feel so bad, I don�t feel so bad
[Breakdown]
I'm so sorry darling Did I do the wrong thing? Oh, what was I thinking? Is his heart still beating?
Woah oh ohh
[Chorus]
Wake up call Caught you in the morning with another one in my bed Don't you care about me anymore? Don�t you care about me? I don't think so. Six foot tall Came without a warning so I had to shoot him dead He won't come around here anymore Come around here anymore? I don�t feel so bad
Wake up call Caught you in the morning with another one in my bed Don�t you care about me anymore? Don�t you care about me? I don�t think so. Six foot tall Came without a warning so I had to shoot him dead He won�t come around here anymore No, he won�t come around here. I don�t feel so bad
I don�t feel so bad (Wake up call) I don�t feel so bad (Caught you in the morning with another one in my bed) I don�t feel so bad (Don�t you care about me anymore?) Care about me? I don�t feel so bad. Wake up call Caught you in the morning with another one in my bed Don't you care about me anymore?
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
I've got a number on a napkin, a pounding in my head It takes everything I've got to crawl out of bed I lost a hell of a woman, freedom caught me on the chin But I'm doing alright for the shape I'm in
The sun came up again this morning I got a call from a long lost friend Planned us a little road trip down in New Orleans It ain't much, but it beats where I've been
Yeah, I'm doing alright, I'm doing alright I'm doing alright for the shape I'm in, yeah
Well, I'm getting better at barely getting by When I look at her picture, I don't break down and cry And all this time on my hands, it's getting easier to spend 'Cause I'm doing alright for the shape I'm in
The sun came up again this morning And I took my old fast back for a spin Now when it rains, it ain't always pouring And I'm learning how to live again Yeah, I'm doing alright, I'm doing alright I'm doing alright for the shape I'm in
Yeah, I'm doing alright, yes, I'm doing alright Yeah, I'm doing alright for the shape I'm in Yes, I'm doing alright, yeah, I'm doing alright Yeah, I'm doing alright for the shape I'm in
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
Be warned - my be triggering and/or melodramatic. No indication of my personal mood, but I love the song.
Though, I am a tad saddened. DD15 lobbied hard to be allowed to have a "boyfriend" at 15... there were a couple shams, but she had a young summer love. A kid a grade behind her - actually, a very good young man. I admit, I liked the kid.
Well, he chose the other high school in town, and DD15 also decided to go back into band this year. After not seeing each other for 2-3 weeks, and knowing that they would be in separate schools, and that she would be busy (and is having a blast) with band, she decided to end it Friday. She's been hanging out w/ her auntie all weekend mourning her summer love.
I do feel a little sad for both kids.
Anyway... this is one our favorite bands, who we went to see in October;
A note by the door Simply explains It's all that remains It's no wonder why I have not slept in days The dust on the floor Piled up from the years All those scars and souvenirs Now that you're gone It's easy to see But so hard to believe
By the way You left without saying Goodbye to me Now that you're gone away All I can think about is You and me You and me
It's not like before You left nothing here It's all disappeared It hurts me to see That we've been a lie Would it have hurt you to try?
By the way You left without saying Goodbye to me Now that you're gone away
All I can think about is You and me You and me
It's sad to say that This pain is killing me inside But it's time to say That this pain is keeping me alive Twisting and turning It rips through my heart It's been tearing me apart
By the way You left without saying Goodbye to me Now that you're gone away All I can think about is You and me You and me
All i think about now Is you and me You and me All i think about now Is you and me You and me
By the way By the way By the way
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
She is fine, but the passenger rear door has a new custom yellow strip paint job.
Well I'll never forget the first time that I heard That pretty mouth say that dirty word And I can't even remember now what she backed my truck into But she covered her mouth and her face got red And she just looked so darn cute That I couldn't even act like I was mad Yeah I live for little moments like that
Well that's just like this last year on my birthday She lost all track of time and burnt the cake And every smoke detector in the house was goin' off And she was just about to cry until I took her in my arms And I tried not to let her see me laugh Yeah I live for little moments like that
I know she's not perfect but she tries so hard for me And I thank god that she isn't 'cause how boring would that be It's the little imperfections it's the sudden change in plans When she misreads the directions and we're lost but holdin' hands Yeah I live for little moments like that
When she's layin' on my shoulder on the sofa in the dark And about the time she falls asleep so does my right arm And I want so bad to move it 'cause it's tinglin' and it's numb But she looks so much like an angel that I don't wanna wake her up Yeah I live for little moments When she steals my heart again and doesn't even know it Yeah I live for little moments like that
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
Wow - glad she's all right! It sure beats running INTO the pole.
(I left a few custom yellow stripes in my day...)
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Oh no! Glad she's ok. I did that recently with my hunting truck going through a dairy queen drive through. My truck barely fit and when I turned the corner to go to the pay window the back end swung tighter than my front and I bounced my truck off a yellow metal pole taking the corner. Haha I too hve some new yellow paint on my brown truck.
There is something about her music - and maybe it's that she appears to be a FWW who took her hiney home again (a rare occurrence w/ Hollywood types) - that just resonates so well. And, she's an exceptional performer. But, her Truth About Love album just has some solid songs for rough moments.
Case in point;
Right from the start You were a thief, you stole my heart And I your willing victim I let you see the parts of me, that weren't all that pretty And with every touch you fixed them Now you've been talking in your sleep oh oh Things you never say to me oh oh Tell me that you've had enough Of our love, our love
Just give me a reason, just a little bit's enough Just a second we're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again It's in the stars, it's been written in the scars on our hearts We're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again
I'm sorry I don't understand Where all of this is coming from I thought that we were fine (Oh we had everything) Your head is running wild again My dear we still have everythin' And it's all in your mind (Yeah but this is happenin') You've been havin' real bad dreams oh oh You used to lie so close to me oh oh There's nothing more than empty sheets between our love, our love Oh our love, our love
Just give me a reason, just a little bit's enough Just a second we're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again I never stop, you're still written in the scars on my heart You're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again
Oh tear ducts and rust I'll fix it for us We're collecting dust, but our love's enough You're holding it in You're pouring a drink No nothing is as bad as it seems We'll come clean
Just give me a reason just a little bit's enough Just a second we're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again It's in the stars, it's been written in the scars on our hearts That we're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again
Just give me a reason, just a little bit's enough Just a second we're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again It's in the stars, it's been written in the scars on our hearts That we're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again Oh we can learn to love again Oh we can learn to love again oh oh Oh that we're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
