I did go ahead and send it right after the last post of mine. So now that it is out there I just have to weather the storm.
Why does everything have to go to this extent? Why couldn't my wife just start telling the truth when she was caught? I caught her lying to me again yesterday. Does it ever end?

Please clarify what you sent to her employer. How many people were notified?

You want to hit as many as possible all at once. I'd really suggest a typed letter sent to each person at her office. Emails can be missed or deleted, but it's hard to ignore an envelope landing on everyone's desk. I think I sent 40 or so to where my FWW worked--one for every employee. If you already emailed, the letter could start with "As a follow-up to my email of September 4th..."

Mr_Infinity,

I would initiate a lawsuit against the company as well.

And yes massive exposure now, get it over with. Find out where the OM golfs, where he goes to church etc.

Is the OM younger than your WW?

God Bless
Gamma

If you see the OM's wife's facebook page, I would get ahold of here there. Ask her to call you ASAP. Send messages to her mother and her sisters if you can find them and tell them to have her call you ASAP.

What did you send?

You need to get ahold of the OM's wife TODAY. This can't be put off anymore. Start PMing her family members and giving them your phone #. Ask them to have her call you.

Does the OM have a facebook page?

This is critical, Mr. I. She is your main exposure target. She is the one who needs to be convinced that you are not some nut-job. What you've done so far is good, but if you don't have his wife on board, your efforts may be for naught. Because OM will get to her first and convince her that you are some looney-tunes who got some hare-brained idea that he wants your wife. OM will spin it and his wife will be loyal and believe him. Everyone you've exposed to will see his wife standing loyally by his side and they will follow suit.

Its a small company, i sent an email to all her coworkers with email addresses maybe 12 or so, maybe 40 - 50 employees total. her boss(owner of the company) is who she is having the affair with. I am pretty sur the letter was seen, they had a meeting about it at lunch, keep in mind i know some of these people, some i know well.
The email said:
All of you know some of what has been going on, but not the truth. please keep an open mind and there are three sides to every story and the middle is the truth. The first page of this document is fact, the rest is my story. ##wife## has confessed to it, she has also admitted it to our neighbors and others. So I am NOT making this up as she would have you believe. I can provide copies of emails, text, and other information. Also, you are ALL smart enough to put two and two together, why would ##om### agree for ###WW### to work from home until she found another job if he isn�t involved? Believe me, I wish this was assimple as �##me## is just crazy and obsessed� just read and make your own decision about it.

the exposure letter was a summary of just facts, who they are, names of who they are married to, how long married and number of children each has. says that they have been having an affair since feb. ##wife## admitted to me and others. her boss agreed to let her work from home in his admission of guilt. i said i would provide copies of all evidence info if requested. I then said who i am and that i love ##wife##, i want to save our marriage, i am working on myself and praying that you will encourage both to stop the affair and recommit to their marriages. If we can stop the affair, we have a chance to redeem our marriage to a better more caring loving relationship.
I put a couple qoutes at the bottom and attached the whole story in a document. the document had some of the text evidence in it. i had hoped it would be enough at once to eliminate all doubt.

yes he has a facebook page. I have sent several messages to his wife through her facebook. I spent all day yesterday trying to stop all the bank accounts from being drained, getting my cell unblocked and turned back on. yesterday was out of control. as fast as i would try to head off one thing she was trying something else.

should i leave mesgs. on their answering machine until i get her?

so sending everything to everyone else WITHOUT knowing for sure his wife seen it was a bad idea?????? That is not good....

In an ideal world, you would have gotten to OMW first and then hit everyone at work. But, it's probably not that big of a deal since you contacted so many at work.

Continue working on getting to OMW, though.

If she's pissed, then you did a good job.

No, I wouldn't. If OM got to it first, it'd give him a head start in presenting you as a nutjob.

Someone suggested contacting her relatives/friends asking them to contact her for you. I would try that route as well.