I am not planning on staying tomorrow night at my sisters. I WILL be moved back in tomorrow!!!

I know he's male because I've met him and he has been over at my house when I was there and I spoke to my H's sister today and found out that she has had dinner with him twice this week.

I have the support of his mom and his aunt to move back into our home. And his mom also printed some information on some marriage sessions that she just took with my FIL (Father-in-Law) in July of this year. And they've been married for 30 years. I'm not sure how to present this info to my H yet. ]

Thanks again to everyone for the wonderful advice. In regards to the spy software on his phone. I don't have access YET, but when I do get access, what's your recommendation?

Are you certain that the calls/texts you are seeing are actually to him though? Is his name set up under someone elses # in your H's phone?

I am the one that set his name and hers up on our phones records online. So I know the difference. Plus her number is in a different city. So when her number first started showing up, I knew exactly who it belonged to.



Did you tell them that your husband is having an affair? I would also caution you about going to just any marriage counselor when your husband is in an affair. Marriage counselors are destructive to marriages, but a DISASTER when there is an affair. Very few understand the dynamics of the fog and will often make things worse by validating foggy, destructive notions of the wayward.

I told them what I thought and of course my MIL (Mother-in-Law) doesn't want to believe that her son could do that. I'm not sure if I want to believe it in my heart, but all evidence points to the contrary. I think I will get a PI to see if I can collect some hard evidence to expose them once and for all.

Did you notice how Dr Harley immediately knew your husband is in an affair? That is very rare that a MC would ever detect that.


For his phone, try eblaster at spectorpro.com. You do know you can't TELL him about this right?

I know, how do I hide the spyware on his phone after I download it?

Did you expose the affair to everyone?

Did you expose the affair to everyone?

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Not yet, but I will be in my neighborhood tomorrow, so I will be talking to the neighbors.

Ok, but what about the KEY people in all this? The neighbors can wait. I am referring to exposure targets who are directly involved.

On the monitoring the text and phone calls, remember that they can always get a pre-paid phone you dont know about. My husband did that and still "texted as friends" on his regular phone so I could see it was all it was. He told her to text his regular phone a few times a day about friend stuff so I would not catch on.

Hi Cn,

I am so very glad to see all of the support you are getting. I will be out of touch for 2 or 3 days as I am heading off for the weekend. The boards can be a bit quiet on the weekend so I hope you will be able to find the answers you need as you need them over the weekend. Just know that whatever the situation someone has experienced it,blogged it and received great advice about it right here on this forum.

Right here you have support materials for those times when noone else is really answering you:
1. Forum posts.
E.g. follow the Amazing Scotland story (you can click on her signature in her post early in your thread.)
****Search for Pepperbrands post on interpreting wayward fogbabble***
2. MB Radio - If you subscribe the value is amazing and you will have more than enough relevant material to keep you going.
3. Dr Harleys articles. Nuff said.

Know that you are the sane one in all of this. Your wayward hubby is pretty much a drug addict. And he is going to act like one too. Trust NOTHING he says. Believe the people here.

DO be aware that marriage counselling generally is chock full of the sucky advice and attitudes that cause these situations in the first place. Even when the info is good it DOES NOT APPLY to how to handle a wayward hubby who is in the fog. Truly.


Thank you so much, I thought that too.


Talk to you in a few days.

Hi Cn,

I am so very glad to see all of the support you are getting. I will be out of touch for 2 or 3 days as I am heading off for the weekend. The boards can be a bit quiet on the weekend so I hope you will be able to find the answers you need as you need them over the weekend. Just know that whatever the situation someone has experienced it,blogged it and received great advice about it right here on this forum.

Right here you have support materials for those times when noone else is really answering you:
1. Forum posts.
E.g. follow the Amazing Scotland story (you can click on her signature in her post early in your thread.)
****Search for Pepperbrands post on interpreting wayward fogbabble***
2. MB Radio - If you subscribe the value is amazing and you will have more than enough relevant material to keep you going.
3. Dr Harleys articles. Nuff said.

Know that you are the sane one in all of this. Your wayward hubby is pretty much a drug addict. And he is going to act like one too. Trust NOTHING he says. Believe the people here.

DO be aware that marriage counselling generally is chock full of the sucky advice and attitudes that cause these situations in the first place. Even when the info is good it DOES NOT APPLY to how to handle a wayward hubby who is in the fog. Truly.

I thought that too

Talk to you in a few days.

Here.
Wayward fog disassembled and decoded

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That's great to see, but how long did the affair to on and did they actually get divorced?? I don't want to go through that. I am hoping that me getting a lawyer and kicking him out of the house, will snap him out of all this selfish behavior. And hopefully read these hooks with me and save our marriage and our family.

I moved my stuff back into the house today without his knowledge. I'm not planning on leaving because my sister has gotten on my last nerve.

Good job!



The next step is to expose the affair. Are you on track to expose the affair?

Do plan on telling your husband you are not going anywhere?

The more effective and immediate your exposure, the more likely you can avoid actually getting divorced. Exposure is your best weapon and I am starting to get very worried about your progress there. Did you read the thread about exposure that is linked in my signature?

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I did tell my family and I told his Mom, which in turn will tell his Dad. She went straight to him about it. Now he of course denied it and she of course believes him. I did tell my H that I'm not leaving. We of course are in separate bedrooms, but I was able to hug/hold him before we went into separate rooms.

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Please go read the thread in my signature and plan a more effective exposure. Does the OW have a facebook account?

No Facebook under her name or her husband's.

Are you sleeping in your own bedroom?