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My former WS seems to think he may have pubic lice. He has suppose to have been a model hubby since March 2012. He is claiming he must have gotten it from the cruise we were on 2 weeks ago, hmm. From what I read for someone to get it from towels, sheets they would have had to have been infested from a person before. And so he says, well how do we know the sheets were changed, hmm.. I don't have symptoms of this at all.. Though I suppose that will show up if it is indeed lice.
Sorry for the disgusting thought ..so you think he may have cheated again???
Thanks for any help.
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Can you get lice from bedsheets that were not washed after an affected person used them? Yep. But the very fact that you are on a website designed for infidelities after finding out your husband was unfaithful, would suggest to me that the far liklier answer is that your WH is still wayward.
Sorry nikkin.
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I reread some of your story and I see multiple people (including myself) recommended a polygraph and told you that he is still lying to you, encouraged you to protect yourself, etc. after his multiple affairs with strippers/prostitutes.
Did you ever seek out a polygraph? Or have you just decided to take him on his word that he is being a 'model hubby?' What EP's have you put in place to protect yourself?
I think you know the answer here, these crabs did NOT come from the sea.
You need to get your head out of the sand and start protecting yourself pronto.
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Let me see if I have this straight... Your husband is a serial cheater with a long history of picking up strippers and prostitutes and you ask if he got lice from the bed sheets on your cruise? A bed that you also slept in and don't have lice?? I think he probably got them from sitting in the church pew reading his Bible. 
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Madam, no one can help you if you choose to be silly and deny what is patently obvious. You know darn good and well where your husband got lice.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My former WS seems to think he may have pubic lice...so you think he may have cheated again??? Sorry, everybody, but some of you might not have the "backstory" which provides the basis for the irony in this admission and question. For your edification, colleagues, a selection of this poster's past notes: I have to believe we can make this work without letting the world know his awful secret. It makes me look bad as well..- 22 June
Why do you say he would be a serial cheater? He has confessed to them both within a few days of one another , and swears he never will again. - 22 June
As hurtful as this has been for me, I just can not hurt him with this.. But I appreciate your help, I really do. And I may be totally wrong here.. but at least I will not have hurt someone else in the process..and yes, maybe I will be sorry for this.. but I have to live with me.. - 22 June
Only person that knows is my sister, and our son.. We never did a polygraph test. - 10 July
I remember asking my husband why so many times did he have sex with the skanks-strippers (at least 8 in 1 1/2 years, plus going to strip clubs 6 times in that span as well.. and to me that is cheating as well)...and he answered "once the lily is off the bloom, what difference does it make"???? was his thought process. My husband is totally remorseful, and no , I don't think he will ever again. BUT I will be on his butt forever more.. I will not ever be so stupid again! - 25 July
So I got WH to agree to take lie detector test again last night.. and guess what.. today he has something to tell me. When he was in FL he did have sex with #1 skank. - 28 July There never was any posting that the long-discussed poly ever took place.
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DENIAL IS NOT A RIVER IN EGYPT.... 
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I think he probably got them from sitting in the church pew reading his Bible.  Now that you say it ML, if he sat there butt naked and the last person to sit there was afflicted with the lice and was ALSO butt naked, it could happen... Spose I should not help this severely WH out with the foggiest of fog babble should I. Seriously Nikkin, I worry about you. Crabs is the very least of your concerns here. Did you ever get an STD test this summer? If not, it is an absolute no brainer. Please reread your original posts and reconsider actually listening to and acting on some of the advice given to you.
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nikkin, all kidding aside, but have you been tested for STDs? There is no way your husband has not given you some disease given his lifestyle. Please do not ever sleep with him again. Get yourself checked out!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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This question is asking us to help you believe something that is completely unbelievable.
We won't help you do that.
We will help you deal with the awful truth that you don't want to believe, though.
Question: do you want to sign up for more of this horror, repeating again and again?
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He is claiming he must have gotten it from the cruise we were on 2 weeks ago, hmm.  DANG those lice-infested cruises! LOL Two words: Poly. Graph.
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What will it take for you to get a polygraph? To take this seriously?
Get an STD test too, as ML said, before you even THINK about sleeping with him again!
Some STDs are curable. Others, like HIV, are not. Do you really want to play those odds?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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My former WS seems to think he may have pubic lice. He 'thinks' he has pubic lice? He hasn't been to a doctor? I certainly hope you are refraining from sex with him until he returns a clean bill of health. It is possible, although unlikely, that your WH was infested by pubic lice by sleeping on the same sheets you were on. Regardless, his history indicates that a polygraph is in order.
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Nikkin,
If I recall, your husband is also having sex with strippers and IV drug using prostitutes.
What is it going to take for you to smarten up? HIV? Hep C? I understand you are in deep denial, but you really are one of those wives that is going to end up with a lifelong illness, possibly terminal, because you refuse to see the obvious.
We can't make you do anything, but if you refuse to follow even basic health safety (don't have sex with someone who is having sex with IV drug using prostitutes), then I don't know what we can do for you.
Please don't wait until you come back here with HIV and wondering if that came from a bed sheet to.
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I think he probably got them from sitting in the church pew reading his Bible.  Now that you say it ML, if he sat there butt naked and the last person to sit there was afflicted with the lice and was ALSO butt naked, it could happen... Spose I should not help this severely WH out with the foggiest of fog babble should I. Seriously Nikkin, I worry about you. Crabs is the very least of your concerns here. Did you ever get an STD test this summer? If not, it is an absolute no brainer. Please reread your original posts and reconsider actually listening to and acting on some of the advice given to you. My H wants to know what church do you go to? We are not familar with this particular church.
BW - 70 WH - 65 M - 35 years D-day - 17 Apr 08 H broke contact 11/1/09 Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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He is claiming he must have gotten it from the cruise we were on 2 weeks ago, hmm.  DANG those lice-infested cruises! LOL Two words: Poly. Graph. My two words: GET! OUT!
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This question is asking us to help you believe something that is completely unbelievable.
We won't help you do that. What kind of friends would we be if we helped you believe an unsafe situation is safe? What kind of friends would we be if we let you stand in the road with a truck about to mow you down, and we said "Ignore that sound -- there's no truck -- you're safe!" What kind of friends would hear you say "Is that a horn I hear?" and say "No, there's no truck; you're safe!"
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The next questions will be:
Could my former WS have gotten Chlamydia from sitting on a bus?
Then: I think my former WS might have gotten herpes from a drinking fountain...
And then: My former WS infected me with HIV, which he got from a coffee cup.
And then: I have cervical cancer from the HPV I was accidently infected with because my former WS sat on a toilet seat -- should I leave the care of my children to my "FORMER WS??"
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Or how about this one:
Male bug: "I PROMISE, honey, I was minding my own business infesting some sheets on a cruise, when I was thrust into the pubic thatch of a former WH. I SWEAR it had nothing to do with my jumping to him from a POSOW/stripper!!!"
Female bug: "You're a louse! Get out! I'm going to Plan DDT!!!"
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