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On another subject...
I have that speech next week - the informative one.
A little poll here:
If you only had 7-10 minutes to share something about relationships to a group of 20-somethings, what would you focus on? ::puts on speech teacher hat:: ok, the whole point of having a time limit is so that you focus on developing one idea (versus, say, an hour-long lecture where you can give more of an overview). i agree with UW that the concept of care and protection is an important one. in our society, we are taught to focus on ourselves, and this is detrimental to a marital partnership (hence the divorce rate). learning to put your spouse before others/things is what the basic concepts are all about. if i were to give this speech, i would make my thesis care and protection, with the 10 basic concepts as the roadmap to creating the care and protection that is vital in a marriage. i would also use each step to reinforce the idea of boundaries (a sub-example in each example). that's off the top of my head, sunny. will you have this speech taped? i'd love to see it! what will you use for visual aids? remember, your VAs should walk you through the speech so you don't need notes. notes tend to reinforce nervousness and lead to reading rather than speaking, ruining your engagement with the audience. i bet you know this already, but it's a habit i have to break out of my own students when they first arrive to my course.
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If you only had 7-10 minutes to share something about relationships to a group of 20-somethings, what would you focus on? Honesty, and even the discovery of the truth as it is revealed to each one within the relationship..Priority shifts..emotional need changes, with time and maturity. Growing together is just that, growing, and doing it together while watching over each other, via open and honest communication... Man you only got 10 mins so..Good luch Good thoughts! Yeah: It's just an "informative speech" for my speech class. Most would be trying to just have to do the 7 min. mimimum but on this subject, I could talk 30 minutes and barely scratch the surface. lol
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If you only had 7-10 minutes to share something about relationships to a group of 20-somethings, what would you focus on? TOUGH. There are so many things to talk about! Funny how there is only 10 minutes to address relationships.... Is it ALL relationships or OS and/or eventual marital relationships? If the latter, I would def put information about the rule of protection and rule of care. Kind of cornerstone MB principles. I of course would like to see information about proper boundaries simply because there is NO where else that young people would get that info. But that might need more than 10 mins, and be geared toward marital relationships. It's just something I have chosen to talk about in my speech class as, so - it's whatever I make it. I do wish I had more than 10 minutes!
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On another subject...
I have that speech next week - the informative one.
A little poll here:
If you only had 7-10 minutes to share something about relationships to a group of 20-somethings, what would you focus on? ::puts on speech teacher hat:: ok, the whole point of having a time limit is so that you focus on developing one idea (versus, say, an hour-long lecture where you can give more of an overview). i agree with UW that the concept of care and protection is an important one. in our society, we are taught to focus on ourselves, and this is detrimental to a marital partnership (hence the divorce rate). learning to put your spouse before others/things is what the basic concepts are all about. if i were to give this speech, i would make my thesis care and protection, with the 10 basic concepts as the roadmap to creating the care and protection that is vital in a marriage. i would also use each step to reinforce the idea of boundaries (a sub-example in each example). that's off the top of my head, sunny. will you have this speech taped? i'd love to see it! what will you use for visual aids? remember, your VAs should walk you through the speech so you don't need notes. notes tend to reinforce nervousness and lead to reading rather than speaking, ruining your engagement with the audience. i bet you know this already, but it's a habit i have to break out of my own students when they first arrive to my course. Great thoughts, Letty! I like where you went with this. It was what I was leaning toward.  Great minds think alike! Although, with limited time I would be able to delve deeply into each concept. Well, I can if I limit the concepts I discuss, of course... I'm going to do a powerpoint. I'm really comfortable with it because I've done all this presentations for my honors course work the last two years. I typically take up an outline on a notecard and that's it. Although, I did think of taking some printed articles off the site here. LOL I think I'd probably need permission to do that... Hmmm....
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how about using prezi (dot com)? my year 13s used it (for the first time!) for their 6-8 minute presentations and had a good time with it. like ppt, but with a difference. i'm a more linear thinker/planner, so i'm not that great with it, but i did use it to present at a conference last year. if you want to trade emails, i'll link it to you.
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how about using prezi (dot com)? my year 13s used it (for the first time!) for their 6-8 minute presentations and had a good time with it. like ppt, but with a difference. i'm a more linear thinker/planner, so i'm not that great with it, but i did use it to present at a conference last year. if you want to trade emails, i'll link it to you. Sure! Would love to check that out! I think we can go through mods and have them send our respective email addresses.
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Did my "marriage builders" speech today and it went very well! I feel like I was able to cover the basics and even prepared a nice powerpoint and handout for the class. I hope some of these young adults are smart enough to check it out further for themselves. I could tell that some of them were tuned out but others seemed pretty interested. I guess if it makes a difference for just 1 or 2 of them it's worth it. Got a "98" - seems my professor doesn't like to give out 100's, which makes me mad because I felt like it was 100 work! He had nothing to say but glowing remarks on the speech and preparation as well as the outline, powerpoint, and handout - so - why not 100, I do not know. Didn't say one negative thing! Ah well
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Did my "marriage builders" speech today and it went very well! I feel like I was able to cover the basics and even prepared a nice powerpoint and handout for the class. I hope some of these young adults are smart enough to check it out further for themselves. I could tell that some of them were tuned out but others seemed pretty interested. I guess if it makes a difference for just 1 or 2 of them it's worth it. Got a "98" - seems my professor doesn't like to give out 100's, which makes me mad because I felt like it was 100 work! He had nothing to say but glowing remarks on the speech and preparation as well as the outline, powerpoint, and handout - so - why not 100, I do not know. Didn't say one negative thing! Ah well Woo hoo. 
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Good job on the speech SunnyD!
What' concept(s) did you end up doing the speech on?
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He had nothing to say but glowing remarks on the speech and preparation as well as the outline, powerpoint, and handout - so - why not 100, I do not know.
Too early in the semester for perfect scores, SDIT. What then would be your motivation to raise your degree of accomplishement thereafter?
Very cool, though!
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Did my "marriage builders" speech today and it went very well! I feel like I was able to cover the basics and even prepared a nice powerpoint and handout for the class. I hope some of these young adults are smart enough to check it out further for themselves. I could tell that some of them were tuned out but others seemed pretty interested. I guess if it makes a difference for just 1 or 2 of them it's worth it. A word to the wise is sufficient Grats Sunny I bet it rocked
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Good job on the speech SunnyD!
What' concept(s) did you end up doing the speech on? I went with the "4 rules for good relationships" that Dr. Harley covers as being the cornerstone for making marriages last: the Rule of Care (which covers the love bank/meeting needs), the Rule of Protection (which covers Lovebusters and POJA - and I threw in good boundaries under this), the Rule of Honesty (RH of course) and the Rule of Time (UA). I had to leave out some of the other concepts since I was limited on time but I figured since Dr. H sees these as the basic 4 I figured it was good enough for me,. lol. On my handout I expanded a bit on the most important ENs and LBs. My thesis was basically that if you want a relationship that lasts, it has to be an exceptional relationship and the 4 rules were how to get there.
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He had nothing to say but glowing remarks on the speech and preparation as well as the outline, powerpoint, and handout - so - why not 100, I do not know.
Too early in the semester for perfect scores, SDIT. What then would be your motivation to raise your degree of accomplishement thereafter?
Very cool, though! Yeah...I guess you're right, NG. LOL
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Did my "marriage builders" speech today and it went very well! I feel like I was able to cover the basics and even prepared a nice powerpoint and handout for the class. I hope some of these young adults are smart enough to check it out further for themselves. I could tell that some of them were tuned out but others seemed pretty interested. I guess if it makes a difference for just 1 or 2 of them it's worth it. A word to the wise is sufficient Grats Sunny I bet it rocked Thanks, CP! I just feel like if they would just learn this now it could save them so much heartache down the road... but, sigh - I guess that's always the way it is with experience and hindsight.
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M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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My thesis was basically that if you want a relationship that lasts, it has to be an exceptional relationship and the 4 rules were how to get there. Yeah those rules are constant and natural don't you think? Dr H has a very practical approach for those who are looking
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My thesis was basically that if you want a relationship that lasts, it has to be an exceptional relationship and the 4 rules were how to get there. Yeah those rules are constant and natural don't you think? Dr H has a very practical approach for those who are looking Yep. It offers both psychologically sound advice as well as practical, every day, solutions. I think most people can get the beauty of the simplicity of the program - they just have to buy in and do it!
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Just wanted to wish everyone a very Happy Thanksgiving! My DD is coming in tomorrow through Wednesday and it will just be the 5 of us, but I have a HUGE menu planned. I've been very busy with school so I have to do some house cleaning too. YAY. not. lol I'm just so happy and have so much to be thankful for. H and I are now past the 2 year recovery mark and things are flying along. I have to say, for me it truly has felt like the "2 year rule" has been very true. We still have to be very diligent about keeping the love bank high but I rarely trigger anymore and even when I do, it's very fleeting and not very powerful at all. Moreover, I feel like total respect has been restored - and for the kids too. It took them awhile and they had their own processes to go through for that, for sure. I can see it again though - in the way they look at their dad. At the beginning of recovery it seemed they always looked to me for advice on all matters but that has changed. Not that they don't look to me for advice - but I love how they now seek out H's advice on many matters, before mine - especially the boys. That's as it should be! For those of you still going along or just beginning recovery, I hope that you find the peace and restoration that Mr. Sunny and I have through this wonderful program we call Marriage Builders! I know we still have work to do and still more to learn; it hasn't always been easy, but it's worth it!
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