So did your DD do wrong? Does she deserve to be held accountable for her actions?

Yes, we made her call the boy and tell him the truth. Now she is grounded.

FYI, Dr Harley actually doesn't support grounding kids.
On the Radio Show he has said that he sees too many emotional problems associated with grounding.
I use time outs.
I also make them apologize as you did.

Moving into my own place today. It sure doesn't feel like a step closer to fixing our marriage.

What is the child custody arrangement in the separation agreement you signed?

It's been left pretty open because of my swing shift

So is there any hope for my marriage at this point?

Yes. There is certainly hope.
At this point you need to continue plan a.
Do you know your wife's top 5 emotional needs?
Please list them and write how to will try to deposit love bank units in each category.

Dr Harley also recommended you reach her through gifts, etc this season. How are you doing that?

Sorry I haven't answered yet. No internet yet just my phone.

I'll answer the first question once I get a pc.

As far as Christmas I was going to send her flowers at work and apparently she likes to drink wine now so I was going to get her a bottle and a set of wine glasses and opener set. Don't have a lot of cash. But I am open to suggestions.

How much wine does she drink?
Don't enable alcoholism.
Is there something more healthy you could get her?
Flavored coffee or maybe one of those Green Mountain individual coffee makers? Starbucks card?

I don't think she's drinking very much.

Well she might down a bottle in a night.
Sign her up for a monthly coffe subscription.
That way she will think of you every time it is delivered. (if she likes coffee)

And buy her a bottle of wine too. Just make sure its one she likes. Otherwise she will be irritated if she ever told you she didn't like it and you bought it anyway.

Here give her this a poem I wrote with a card and a stuff animal. You can personalize the card with a pic of you and her together. A family pic would be preferable.

Special Wife

She is the apple of my eye,
The reason that I live.
She is all that I could wish for.
My heart to her I give.

It is for that someone special,
These words that I do pen,
To thank her for always being,
My wife and my best friend.

She has the will to live until,
The last breath she does take,
There is the love within her heart,
Such good memories we make.

She is the sunshine in my morning,
The star that's in my sky,
And if I should ever lose her,
Then I would surely die.

She stands always at my side,
No matter what comes our way.
She comforts me with unwavering love,
Each and every day.

She carries many burdens,
And her heart is sometimes broken,
By all the thanks she never gets,
And all the words not spoken

I know her life is not her own,
I always seem so needy,
And asking her to do one more thing,
I feel so really greedy.

How can I ever thank her,
For all she has done for me?
I can only give her all my heart,
And love her to infinity.

I hope that when the end comes,
And she meets God face to face,
He will tell her that in Heaven,
She has a very special place.

Your sacrifices are truly appreciated
(Wife name here)

I stopped to see 2 of my bw friends tonight because they had stuff for my new place. Both of them told me the same thing, she's done. I could really use some encouragement right now.

Well she is done.
That's why you are separated.
Your task is to get her interested again. Get her to fall in love with you. Te new you. Not the old new.

I just hope I can.

Will she let you spend any alone time with her?

No, I asked if she wanted to stop for coffee and she said no. Texting a lot and a few one on ones at her house.

I did send some flowers to her work. She'll get them tomorrow . I hope she don't get pissed.

Other than her saying she wants a D, what actions has she done?

Has she told you to not send gifts?

Dr. Harley said to stay in Plan A until the D, correct? Did he say to move back into your home?

Has she asked for NC from you?