I agree with everything you all said. But it is almost impossible to get 24 hours of ua. We have 2 kids and like I said my wife teach every evening. With the kids it.is almlst.impossible to get 15 let alone 20+. I have 5-7 a week of.possible time, and wife.wants to wind down , after teaching and watching the kid all day. Any suggestion on how to get the time needed? Ive suggested dates on the weekend but we also want to see the kids too. I just cant see how we get there.
That's because you aren't asking your W to brainstorm ideas to get those 20+ hours. It sounds like you fear asking her to make your M and the time needed a priority.
From where I sit your life isn�t much different than many including my own. I have 3 kids and with sports activities and dance lessons and what-not there is always a reason (excuse) why we can�t spend UA time together. But if one makes it the priority then it�s really quite easy. One just has to make the commitment to do it.
What does your W think about spending more time together?
My wife and I spend a LOT of time together on the weekends to make up for the hectic schedule we have during the week. If the weekdays happen to free up some then that frees up our weekends to do more independent type of things � if we want to. But now that things are going well � we really look forward to spending time together and miss our time together so we end up spending even MORE time together. You will get there someday, too, if you make it a priority.
What are your W�s ENs? List them please. UA time is supposed to be spent fulfilling those ENs, especially the intimate ones like Affection and Conversation and yes hopefully SF. So what are you doing in the time you do have to meet hers? And what is your W�s opinion on how well you are doing? If she isn�t telling you specifically what you do well and what you don�t do well then you need to open up the PORH.
