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You asked your wife to move out of the house, and then you told her that she must move out of the house. She has repeatedly refused. As you explained, you cannot physically throw her out of the house, and you cannot legally force her out of the house.

Brain and Melody have stated that you could get her to move out of the house if you really wanted to, but neither Brain nor Melody have explained how. I think that information would be very helpful at this point.

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Originally Posted by JessicaClaire
You asked your wife to move out of the house, and then you told her that she must move out of the house. She has repeatedly refused. As you explained, you cannot physically throw her out of the house, and you cannot legally force her out of the house.

Brain and Melody have stated that you could get her to move out of the house if you really wanted to, but neither Brain nor Melody have explained how. I think that information would be very helpful at this point.
This is how.

Since he won't use the techniques to kill the communication between WW and OM,because he can stop her from driving the car and insurance he pays for while she continues her affair.

Change the locks and pack her stuff and put it on the stoop.

Here How to Plan B Correctly


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Could the WW phone have an "accident"? That is a great start......

Give her no secrecy.......or what waywards call "privacy" to carry on their affair.

Remove all inside door locks......cannot text in the bathroom when there is no lock.....goes outside....follow her there......tell her that she cannot carry on her affair in the marital home......make it uncomfortable and impossible to carry on the affair in the marital home and in front of you....either she gets with the program or gets out.


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That link contains a practical action plan that would certainly seem to apply to this situation. Thank you for posting it.

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Originally Posted by JessicaClaire
That link contains a practical action plan that would certainly seem to apply to this situation. Thank you for posting it.

Thank you once again to BH....the queen of links....end of t/j


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Originally Posted by Logans_Run
Could the WW phone have an "accident"? That is a great start......

Give her no secrecy.......or what waywards call "privacy" to carry on their affair.

Remove all inside door locks......cannot text in the bathroom when there is no lock.....goes outside....follow her there......tell her that she cannot carry on her affair in the marital home......make it uncomfortable and impossible to carry on the affair in the marital home and in front of you....either she gets with the program or gets out.
Excellent ideas.

If he wanted to kill the affair while she is still in the house he does EVERYTHING in his power to raise holy heck for her to continue her affair.


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Originally Posted by Logans_Run
Originally Posted by JessicaClaire
That link contains a practical action plan that would certainly seem to apply to this situation. Thank you for posting it.

Thank you once again to BH....the queen of links....end of t/j
You're very welcome JC.

LR, blush

Now hopefully LML will get a fire under him that we've lit for him and fight the affair.

Nothing will work when you continue to do nothing.

Also watch this.
What Every Couple Needs to Know


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I did have keyloggers on all the computers in my house including my own. about a month ago she came home with a new laptop. I asked her where it came from. She started with a BS excuse the she was having problems with it. Then followed up with and I don't know what you might have on it. So now she has the new laptop and I haven't had opportunity to try and get passed the password. She also has a smart phone now that's always locked because I canceled the phone that I was paying for. I was looking for WW and OM FB pages again lastnight. Now that I'm sleeping alone again. As I'm sitting here writing this post. She came home and her phone was going off. She was texting like crazy. I asked who she was texting with. She shot me a look and responded with.. DON'T WORRY IT'S NOT HIM.

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You do understand that your next move will be to act against all the elements of her life that facilitated her affair, right? That will mean removing YOUR money, to private accounts, cancelling all joint credit cards, and pulling the plates to any vehicles she drives that are in your name. I would take care of the financial arrangements before pulling the pin on the "exposure grenade".

Just in case you choose to stop your cyber-bonding with the ladies here and want to fight for your self-respect, I thought I'd pop this one up again for you. WW's life right now is centered on living a fantasy and humiliating you. That life must be ruined!

You don't "give" her the car, dude, you pull the plates, disable it, and tell her if she takes your vehicle, you will report it stolen. The only driving to be done is "her out of your house". When she answers her cell phone, you follow her around loudly asking if that's her boyfriend, and if so, you want to talk to that coward now. EVERY CALL!!! EVERY DAY!!!! UNTIL SHE HANGS UP!!!! In front of your children, you ask her if she plans to stop screwing around with another man!

And if none of this shows signs of working, there are a lot more tactics to try. Newspaper ads publicising her actions, a phone campaign to all her friends asking if WW's been by their house today, looking for the friends' HUSBANDS.

Nowhere does it say you have to play "fair". So stop!

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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
You do understand that your next move will be to act against all the elements of her life that facilitated her affair, right? That will mean removing YOUR money, to private accounts, cancelling all joint credit cards, and pulling the plates to any vehicles she drives that are in your name. I would take care of the financial arrangements before pulling the pin on the "exposure grenade".

Just in case you choose to stop your cyber-bonding with the ladies here and want to fight for your self-respect, I thought I'd pop this one up again for you. WW's life right now is centered on living a fantasy and humiliating you. That life must be ruined!

You don't "give" her the car, dude, you pull the plates, disable it, and tell her if she takes your vehicle, you will report it stolen. The only driving to be done is "her out of your house". When she answers her cell phone, you follow her around loudly asking if that's her boyfriend, and if so, you want to talk to that coward now. EVERY CALL!!! EVERY DAY!!!! UNTIL SHE HANGS UP!!!! In front of your children, you ask her if she plans to stop screwing around with another man!

And if none of this shows signs of working, there are a lot more tactics to try. Newspaper ads publicising her actions, a phone campaign to all her friends asking if WW's been by their house today, looking for the friends' HUSBANDS.

Nowhere does it say you have to play "fair". So stop!
Thanks again NG.

Also listen to these clips of Dr. H telling a BH in your exact situation.
Radio clip of WW carrying on her affair in front of BH
Segment #2
Segment #3


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Time for that phone to get flushed.

Oops.....didnt mean to step on your laptop 14 times. TAWANDAAAAAAA... (fried green tomatoes reference).

Have you changed her access to the marital funds? Have you changed checking accounts?

Do not fund her affair.

Get with it.



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My FBH took my affair phone and put it in the vice grip. It shattered.

Do you have a vice grip ?


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Originally Posted by JessicaClaire
Brain and Melody have stated that you could get her to move out of the house if you really wanted to, but neither Brain nor Melody have explained how. I think that information would be very helpful at this point.

Please allow HIM to ask the questions HIMSELF. He has not bothered so far.


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Exposure 101


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by JessicaClaire
Brain and Melody have stated that you could get her to move out of the house if you really wanted to, but neither Brain nor Melody have explained how. I think that information would be very helpful at this point.

Please allow HIM to ask the questions HIMSELF. He has not bothered so far.
Am I in the movie "Groundhog Day"? Where it's a new day, but nothing has changed?


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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Am I in the movie "Groundhog Day"? Where it's a new day, but nothing has changed?

Yep. I think we have to accept that some people come here to blog rather than resolve their problems.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Am I in the movie "Groundhog Day"? Where it's a new day, but nothing has changed?

Yep. I think we have to accept that some people come here to blog rather than resolve their problems.
Yes, you're correct. There are other websites that you can do just that.


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Am I in the movie "Groundhog Day"? Where it's a new day, but nothing has changed?

Yep. I think we have to accept that some people come here to blog rather than resolve their problems.

Just great, now I have that Sonny and Cher tune playing in my head........


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OK.... So How Do I get Her To GO??????????

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BH and ML: I guess the snide comment in my last note about why LML is here was too subtle.
Shoulda gone with my first impulse and used "-flirting" instead of "-bonding"!

As always, calling them as I see them!

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Originally Posted by Loosingmylove
OK.... So How Do I get Her To GO??????????

Did you see this?
Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
You do understand that your next move will be to act against all the elements of her life that facilitated her affair, right? That will mean removing YOUR money, to private accounts, cancelling all joint credit cards, and pulling the plates to any vehicles she drives that are in your name. I would take care of the financial arrangements before pulling the pin on the "exposure grenade".

Just in case you choose to stop your cyber-bonding with the ladies here and want to fight for your self-respect, I thought I'd pop this one up again for you. WW's life right now is centered on living a fantasy and humiliating you. That life must be ruined!

You don't "give" her the car, dude, you pull the plates, disable it, and tell her if she takes your vehicle, you will report it stolen. The only driving to be done is "her out of your house". When she answers her cell phone, you follow her around loudly asking if that's her boyfriend, and if so, you want to talk to that coward now. EVERY CALL!!! EVERY DAY!!!! UNTIL SHE HANGS UP!!!! In front of your children, you ask her if she plans to stop screwing around with another man!

And if none of this shows signs of working, there are a lot more tactics to try. Newspaper ads publicising her actions, a phone campaign to all her friends asking if WW's been by their house today, looking for the friends' HUSBANDS.

Nowhere does it say you have to play "fair". So stop!

Did you read the Plan B thread I posted?


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