What type of person would make the best intermediatery.
I want to do this properly so will use the next couple of days to do this and im determined to do this properly and stay strong.
Oh your mindset sounds really good!
Your IM should be someone level headed and someone neutral who is not too involved (i.e. not your angry dad!) We have an IM training thread on here.
My IM is a fellow MBer and she communicates with my WH by email. Its worked really well. If you want that, I would be happy to volunteer to help you out. However you would need someone in RL to oversee handovers for visitations,but they wouldnt have to do any communication stuff with him...
I know the man I loved and thought I knew so well may never return (in person and in himself) if that makes sense.
yeah I know

I cant move in with my family im in kent my family are in london. I do have very good friends who live close to me and they support me.
How about staying with your family for just a few months? Until things are sorted financially. The first few months are so rough on you!
He has been ill this week so has not been round and if Im honest I feel better for it already.
You have no idea how great Plan B is. Can you imagine going a whole day without thinking about any of this? I promise you it is possible!
My h is continuing to pay for everyting until my h benefit is accepted then we have agreed that he will set up a standing order monthly of a fixed amount which is more than i would get through the csa.
He will without doubt go back on his word. Without doubt. Use the CSA.
I will get advice from a solicitor about our divorce he said to me that he will lie to get the divorce under adultery as when i found out they hadnt slept together but now they are so i dont get how he would be lying???
I would advise you not listen to a wayward. They talk a lot of crap about how they didnt do anything wrong really. And it isnt wrong now because separated (while jerking your wifes heart around) is not the same as married. EXCEPT IT IS!!!
Besides which, even without proof of sexual adultery, leaving you and the baby for another woman means you can quite easily divorce him for unreasonable behaviour!