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That is what breaches in plan b will do, make you sick. Seriously. Glad you are feeling better, stay dark and focus on you.
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Wow, there's more too...
I got a letter very nasty that I believe (and so does everyone else) came from her. Husband didn't want to get police involved so we can see tape. Superintendant described woman in building that day fitting her description.
OW has told WH that he has to divorce me now and he told me he seriously considers it. That he looked into it. But he hasn't spoken to a lawyer. My MIL said OW calls yelling all the time about how he's not divorcing me. MIL claims WH told her he doesn't know what to do.
Once I actually heard the confusion in his voice. I feel sorry for him but this is not healthy. It was the first time I really heard it. It was also when he told me he was going to IC for himself. He asked me if our love story (we were meant to be) was true then why did this happen? I said maybe so we would wake up and stop taking it for granted. Not sure that sunk in - hes still wayward ya know...
I listened because I guess I hoped to hear something different. I mean the OW is bonkers. He HAS to see that. My MIL also said OW does drive bys when he doesn't pick up the phone and once stopped short in front of him like she was going to hit him... THIS is his replacement? THIS is what he'd prefer? I dont' know... he can't be happy. But neither am I. And I can control my own happiness not his choices.
BW: Me, 42
WH: Him, 41
ILYBNILWY: Sept 2011, he moved out
DDay1: Dec 2011, ongoing since at least April 2011 if not longer
WH moves back we try FR 1/12
DDay2: Feb 2012
DDay3: April 2012, WH moves back out to "find himself"
Many attempts at FR, he can't make a decision
5/2013: WH states he wants a Divorce. POSOW is insisting.
8/2013: He files for D. She got hers, where's his?
Current: nothing is progressing, we do not speak
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How can you plug these holes in your Plan B? For your health/sanity you need to tell everyone you don't want to hear anything about or from your WH.
Do you have an IM?
How is your self care?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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