By the way, NewPetals, any updates?

~ Z

NP, I'm so glad you checked in with us! And I'm sorry to hear of your sadness I can only say that I think you're a great person who has been through an awful lot. And I think much better times are ahead for you. Cold comfort, I know

I think your ex is mean to you because the alternative is too much for his guilt to handle. As in, if he's 'nice' to you, he's confirming that you are a person who deserves to be treated nicely. That fact doesn't square with the mental construction he has built in order to be able to look himself in the mirror. It doesn't square with him having an affair and leaving you. It's a selfish way for him to be able to live with himself.

One foot in front of the other, sweetie. I think you'll be fine - especially after you move away from him and the drama that comes with living too close to the hound dog and his skank.