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I am just shaking my head at your response, hopeful.

Try opening a different browser like Firefox. I have the same problem. Can only listen live 1x.

I listened to the segment. I get it. I knew that when I told him to call her it was with the mindset of revenge due the pain I am feeling. The other woman is in a high position at my husbands company. She is young and attractive. I am a stay at home mom and one of my children is disabled. I also have a permanent injury to my leg from a car accident which forces me to wear a brace. Basically no matter how hard I try to take care of my self and look attractive to my husband, I can't compete with the other woman. And I'm not going to lie I would enjoy hearing him being rejected provided it didnt blow up in my face if she felt the same way. But at least then I would know even if its painful. But I understand completely that is a terrible idea that is based on emotions that I'm sure I would regret

Just received an email from Joyce and they are going to address my situation on todays broadcast. I just want to thank all of you for saying it like it is. I appreciate your honesty and I feel I am doing a terrible job at handling this. My husband trickling out the truth over the past year and a half has been torture and I guess I have now also contributed to destroying our marriage.

I understand...I am shaking my head at myself

Revenge fantasies are normal. Acting on revenge fantasies tend to bring more pain. It's okay though that you have these feelings.

Know that trickle truth is awful. He basically invalidated everything your intuition was telling you for months and months and months. It's a terrible thing to do to someone.

Army mama is right though. When he does offer truth, can you listen calmly? Very difficult!

He needs to leave his job and needs to take a poly so you can know for certain what has happened here. I can't remember if there's been exposure but you need to tell some people who can offer SUPPORT to you and your marriage.

What can you do today that will help sooth your nerves? Think self care and keep it simple.

Thanks for understanding. I think that's part of my problem no one knows this forum is my only support system. I have no outlet and I feel as if I am just beaten down. I took a few minutes this morning to have a cup of coffee in silence...so sad but it felt like a mini vacation. I never have time to do that.

Get the poly and once you know the extent of his dishonesty, you expose to friends and family. DON'T tell him you're going to expose. Just do it! Just do it so that his bad behavior is brought into the open. This will help hold him accountable.

Get the poly. Seriously. I get this feeling you're wavering about that. If he resists or tries to talk you out of it RED FLAG. Your mind cannot rest until you know the scope of what happened here.

Please make this your next step.

you are so right. I think that I realize that radical honesty is necessary but I had no idea how painful it is. He agreed to a polygraph and even suggested that he give that to me as an anniversay present every year so that I know he is being honest and faithful. I wasnt sure how to react to that. It is so necessary for me to get the whole and complete truth but I just thought it was weird to suggest a polygraph as a gift to me. I am not trying to trash my husband in these posts. He is otherwise an amazing husband and father. So much that I am still in shock that we are going through this. I post here because I know all of you have been feeling what I feel in one way or another at some point and I don't want to do the wrong thing. I am just depleated and I value all of your feedback. I know the polygraph is necessary for us to heal. I love my husband and I am praying that a polygraph will be a new beginning and not the beginning of the end. But either way I need to know.

Hopeful99,

I really hope the best for you and your H. I have not listened to the show today but intend to. I am not 100% convinced that the relationship between your H and this women has been left at the imagination. That could just be me but as I have learned so many times on this site, better to be safe than sorry. Trust but verify.

Your H has lead a very dangerous lifestyle. I know this all to well because I lived the same lifestyle. I was always the super friendly, outgoing, full of compliments person. It was innocent however I now realize that it fed into my ego and helped cause my own Affairs.

In fact, the other day I offered my son a sandwich outside and the our neighbor across the street yelled "make me a salami and bologna sandwich." I was actually tempted to go inside and make him one, just to be nice. My MB instincts however kicked in and I thought about it and decided that there was really no reason to make him a sandwich.

In order for you and your H to have a safe marriage you both need to follow MB to a tee. He must be on board and willing to change his ego boosting personality.

Here are your radio clips.
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Thank you. I appreciate it so much.

You're welcome.

Here's the follow up to their emails.

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