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Paging Ms Hurts, Ms BrainHurts:
I'm of the opinion that this thread could use a reference to the "Schmoopies" site.
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I want to say - "Um, because his Dad is a bishop in the Mormon church, and he would never support a relationship born out of infidelity, especially infidelity that dishonored a temple marriage". I know I probably should not say that though...
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don't argue, don't argue, don't argue....
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Paging Ms Hurts, Ms BrainHurts:
I'm of the opinion that this thread could use a reference to the "Schmoopies" site. Here you go. Soul Mate Shmoopies
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Okay, she replied to that text Melody. she said:
"And why would you assume that? You don't know anything about him or his family. I'm not going to tell you not to worry about me, because I know you will anyway, but again, I'm making my own decisions, and I'm going to be fine."
Should I respond? If so, how? "Yes, I do worry because I know how Mr and Mrs OMParents feel about your affair and the future of your relationship in their family. This concerns me greatly."
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hmm, but I haven't truly talked to them yet. Should I say it anyways?
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Hmm, but I haven't truly talked to them yet. Should I say it anyways? The OM's wife told you they did not approve.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Aye, though that was second hand. But I suppose that's enough.
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Aye, though that was second hand. But I suppose that's enough. You don't have to say HOW you know. Just that you know. Lead her to believe you are in touch with them without actually saying it. Be vague but knowing.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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See, the reason I wanted you to visit with his parents is so you could get intel from them AND so you could make sure they know all about the affair. Getting their feelings about the affair would be a potent weapon to use against the affair because your W will have second thoughts about the affair if she knows she can never darken their doorstep. See how you can use things like this to cast doubt on the affair?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes, I do. I sent the text anyways. Kind of a risk, but oh well.
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Yes, I do. I sent the text anyways. Kind of a risk, but oh well. What is the risk?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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When the information is second hand, there is always a potential for it to be wrong.
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When the information is second hand, there is always a potential for it to be wrong. That is true. Hopefully you have been getting the truth from the OMW. And hopefully you can clear up any miscommunications when you actually speak to these people.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Okay she's mad again... Here is the text:
"Oh okay, so you're talking to his parents now too? Or still just getting all of your facts from OM's wife? I don't care if you chat with her, it's weird as hell, but don't come to me with all of your intel and concerns, I don't need it."
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Is this when I say: "I'm sorry you're upset." ?
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Okay she's mad again... Here is the text:
"Oh okay, so you're talking to his parents now too? Or still just getting all of your facts from OM's wife? I don't care if you chat with her, it's weird as hell, but don't come to me with all of your intel and concerns, I don't need it." "just know that I do care about you so naturally I am concerned about his family's bad reaction. I don't want you to be blindsided. Hopefully, OM is telling you about the difficulties. "
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Sent, oh man she is going to be furious.
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This is good stuff.. I love you guys. thanks so much. I am way to emotional perturbed right now to think of this stuff on my own.
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I can almost feel her grabbing for the crack pipe as I pull it further away.
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