Just talked to yet another attorney. From all of the attorneys I've talked to, they all don't really seem to think I have a case against the company. I still haven't heard back from the company WS and OM work for unfortunately... So they may have disregarded my letters.

As far as the alienation of affection, based on my situation they seem to think I have about a 60/40 chance of success, but it will be expensive.

The attorney I just talked to said he could send a letter saying to end the affair within X amount of time or you will be sued for alienation of affection for about $250.

I think I will do as you guys suggest and feed the info to my wife somehow first.

Oooh, good idea. I will asking about filing it with intent on planning to drop the case at a later date.

Be careful how you word that...it may be unethical for an attorney to file a lawsuit simply to harass an individual where the client has no intention of doing anything other than dropping it. You just say you want to minimize costs and anticipate settling the matter, hopefully, long before trial (like when the affair ends).

PLUS...once you file...it is possible that the OM will hire an attorney and COUNTERSUE you for something (libel or invasion of privacy or anything his lawyer can conjure up) under the belief that a good defense is a good offense at which point you merely dropping it is not so easy anymore.

Eh, too late. I sent him an e-mail saying basically what you said before. Oh well...

He knows my goal is to save my marriage, so he will understand where I am coming from at least.

If she ends up wanting to move in with OM after I move back into the old house, would it be detrimental to insist I keep the dog at home? She has always considered it her dog, but I love the thing just as much as she does.

...would it be detrimental to insist I keep the dog at home?

YES!

You want as many complications and entanglements as possible in their "love shack" fantasy.

Meanwhile, start listing your soon-to-be-empty house "For Rent". In addition to possibly giving you financial relief from a second mortgage, it will be another impediment to her thinking this will pass quickly.

Wait I'm confused. When I said detrimental, I meant detrimental to my goals. So I should insist on keeping the dog?

NO!!!!!!!

You want the lust-bunnies to have to walk him at 6:00am; buy dog-food for it; clean up after it; maybe lose rental options because of it!

Okay Okay, I understand now. I thought you were saying it would be an entanglement because she would miss her dog. I'm with you now though, 100%, lol.

Rrrr, just got word that OM was over at the house again yesterday. It made me only more anxious to move back in there. I can't wait.

But you already knew this, right? When does the locksmith come?

I think I may just move in tonight actually. I want to get this ball rolling.

Odd listen. HAVE A PLAN. Do not change your plan because of her actions. So what POSOM was there you know that. You know they had sex, if you follow your plan that you make in a calm mindframe you won't make emotional mistakes that become lovebusters.

the smith is coming tonight at 4 pm. After they are done, I think I will pack up some stuff and head over there.

Tranquil - I see what you're saying, but I am just not sure what the point of waiting until tomorrow would be?

His plan was to go over there after the locksmith changed the locks.

So her Mom doesn't want to talk to me for some reason... Maybe WS told her something, I don't know. Either way, I was thinking about sending her this message on facebook - tell me what you guys think:

I guess if it makes you feel uncomfortable to talk to me I understand, I just have some major concerns about WS's future, even if our marriage doesn't work out.

I'm worried this affair is going to end in disaster for WS. I have talked to OM's parents, and they are extremely upset, they support me trying to save my marriage, and have been demanding and pushing their son to end his relationship with WS. I don't think they will ever accept WS into their family because of the infidelity, adultery, and betrayal involved. I'm also really concerned that if WS ever gets sick one day, that OM will simply abandon WS just like he did with his current wife... Should that ever happen, know that I will be there beside your daughter holding her hand, taking care of her.

Good? Or should I change it?

No...let mom hang a bit. You don't know for sure she's avoiding you...she may just be getting a pedicure and a mani and your written contact after blowing up her phone may alarm her that you are going crazy (like your wife is telling her you are).

Your MIL is going to support her daughter in the long run. Don't speed her along that process.

Mr. W

She actually wrote back. I told her I would call her tonight.