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Plan B seems insignificant as he has NOT said he wants to reconcile and I dont know what I want either Plan B is to prevent you from harm. Why not have your legal representative deal with WH when it comes to legal necessities?
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Physically better a bit...Thank you
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Hey! Easy on us manly, repulsive trolls!
The point is, JG, you are far from needing to analyze her attractions for WH. Looooong before that happens, you must decide WHETHER you want WH back at all. That was my first (obviously, too subtle) question for you.
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you must decide WHETHER you want WH back at all. Exactly!
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im lost with your comment
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Why do I have to know where his head is b4 I begin to decide?
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Why do I have to know where his head is b4 I begin to decide? That's what Plan B will do for you!!!!
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The SKANK...Been married 5 times, posts her other "realtionships" 5 in 2 years on FB
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Shes 6 year his junior He wants nasty sex several times a day with this tramp who gives it to him every which way. Leave them to it. Get out of the way and do not prop him up by being his nice wife to whom he can talk. Tell him to talk to THIS. Thank you for the compliment, Jilly! You like what you have seen of me because I have become one of the non-wimpy women that Dr Harley spoke of on his radio show this week. My H was picked up by a trampy whore in a bar and kept re-burying his affair for over 3 years. (It was easy to do because he travelled to Belgium for work, and she lived there. They would meet in his hotel, then he would shower and shave and come home next day, and I would be none the wiser.) This whore was married to a very well-earning man and had two teenaged kids still at school. She chose to see her life as a Greek tragedy, and had had several affairs since they moved to Belgium. Once I stopped crying and comparing myself to someone who was less than s* beneath my shoe, Things got better for me, and now they are good. I'm all in favour of your taking him back after all he's done, IF, as Dr Harley says, you think your marriage and future are worth it, and IF he dumps the tramp, grovels to you and enters the MB recovery programme. If she lives anywhere near you - even in the same state, and I know your states are huge - this might mean moving away and starting afresh, which will do your marriage the world of good. He needs to show willingness to do something extraordinary before you take him back. My H had to retire from his job in order for the contact and false recoveries to stop. If, though, he wants you on a string as his friend and possible fallback, you need to disabuse him of the notion that he has that choice and leave him to drown in the toilet bowl in which he is living. Join our group of non-wimpy women, today, Jilly!
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The SKANK...Been married 5 times, posts her other "realtionships" 5 in 2 years on FB
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TROLL, REPULSIVE, HUGE...MANLY (spelling)
Shes 6 year his junior Is your WH a heavy drinker?
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Why do I have to know where his head is b4 I begin to decide? The answer to this is obvious, Jilly. If his head is still inside her nether regions, he will vaccillate between you and her, and cause you much heartache and pain. I made light of how I shook off the mental torture of OW for myself, but in fact, the repeated D Days over 3.5 years cause me a near-nervous breakdown. I survived that, but my children suffered and many women do not survive it. If he is to come back, he must be broken and regret every ounce of what he did and what he lost, including hurting your daughter. If he isn't in that state of mind when you take him back, you have a false recovery awaiting you. Don't go there.
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Heavy drinker or a functioning alcoholic?
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Jilly, please quote the post you are replying to. Pep has made many posts to you and we do not know what this "yep!" refers to. Is your H a heavy drinker? See these buttons? Top Reply Quote Quick Reply Quick Quote Notify Email Post Use the "quote" button on the post you are responding to, and add your response underneath the quoted text.
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Works EVERYDAY...Doesnt miss work ever due to it....BUT drinks or at least drank 7 days a week 1-5 a day...Heavy or Functioning?
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Reply Quote Quick Reply Quick Quote Notify Email Post
See those little icons on the post you want to reply to?
Click the box that says "Quote".
When you do that, a new reply box opens up and includes the post to which you are responding.
Scroll down to get just under the quote, and begin typing your reply.
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Works EVERYDAY...Doesnt miss work ever due to it....BUT drinks or at least drank 7 days a week 1-5 a day...Heavy or Functioning? He's a functioning alcoholic. Any DUIs?
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An alcoholic marriage.
Spouse A is the alcoholic.
Spouse E is the enabling spouse.
Spouse E does not know how to answer the question "How are things going?" until spouse E determines how spouse D is behaving that particular day.
The mood of the entire family revolves around spouse A's moods.
All plans revolve around how nice vs nasty spouse A is being that day.
When asked "What do you want to do?", the E spouse looks to the A spouse for an answer.
Correct so far?
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Works EVERYDAY...Doesnt miss work ever due to it....BUT drinks or at least drank 7 days a week 1-5 a day...Heavy or Functioning? He's a functioning alcoholic. Any DUIs? NO DUIS
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No, hes had no duis...Im trying to hit right button and not working
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Works EVERYDAY...Doesnt miss work ever due to it....BUT drinks or at least drank 7 days a week 1-5 a day...Heavy or Functioning? He's a functioning alcoholic. Any DUIs? NO DUIS You did it correctly.
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