I'll just got home, ran to store. VAR installed!

It's only a guess, nothing for sure of course, but think it's probably old high school friend or boyfriend.

She has an iPhone, password-no idea the code. She leaves around here and there,not often, tried a fewcodes, no luck and darn phone disables after a few attempts. So that's been a slow go. If I get it unlocked, reading in other part here on site I would buy the software.

would have that as my access to guard plan A, keeping no contact. The problem is, it would be my only source, so if I found something at a later date, she'd know I got it off her phone. It's a slippery slope.

I am confused about this statement, but if you found something on her phone, the goal would be to use that information to confront her and kill her affair. You wouldn't necessarily tell her how you got the information. Even so, if your confrontation did reveal your source, it would be ok because the goal is to kill the affair, not to spy.

I think you can connect an Iphone to a computer that has iTunes and download her texts and phone calls. Does she have an iTunes account?

Any clues on names?

She could have hidden her facebook account. Do you have a facebook account of your own? Does she ever use the computer you are on right now?

She had a face book acct, but it's been deactivated.

No clues on names, don't know much about her hometown or pre-me years of her life. We met in college far from her former life.

My point with the phone, I understand first time I use that info to expose. But if she can't stay away during part 2, and I get more info off phone. She'll know it was phone ans she'll take it even more underground than now. She has iTunes on her work computer, I have no access to it. Don't have acct info. At home we use an Xbox and our kindles. We don't have a home computer.

Ok, how else can you get on her iphone? Can you grab her phone, say you need her password because you need to look something up on the internet?

I don't care if she goes further underground, that can't be prevented.

As for the PI, is there any way you can negotiate a lower price with him? What if he just watched them for one day? Can you tell him you can only afford a certain amount and ask if he can do it for that amount?

It takes only a few seconds to reactivate a Facebook account. How do you know that it's deactivated? Did she tell you?

What makes you think it's an old boyfriend? Has she mentioned any particular names off-hand to you?

Go to our Operation Investigate forum and look up tools for snooping on Facebook. There is a thread there that gives tips on getting into Facebook accounts.

Is there a website for the reunion? If there were only 17 people in her graduating class, likely only half will be male. Then you can FaceBook search those names...

Worth a try!

She's still my wife on my Facebook page, she made my Facebook page cause my own reunion was coming up. It says her page has been deactivated.

I view the reunions have a plus one minus one. years coming. So it's @ 3 classes showing up.

I don't understand a single word you just said!

it maybe time you got a computer (this would allow her to facebook, email etc from home) which you can track with a keylogger and also back up iphone to it to then see her text messages.

Agree 100%! Why not go out and buy a nice new laptop today? Put it in your home in the hopes she will start using it. Download iTunes and download a keylogger like eblaster or webwatcher.

LOL, it WAS a little circular. I think he said the reunion is open to any student who graduated in her class, as well as the class before hers and the class after.

Clarify please, stunned.

Hm. This makes no sense. Why would she deactivate her account with a reunion coming up? That would be the likely time to HAVE a FB account. I've got to think about this...

she may have started a new fb account, one that isn't going to be seen

We got rid of the tv and blue ray player too. At the time we had too many things side tracking our lives. The bedroom was supposed to be a sanctuary that we get away from the outside world. Then I got the promotion and it was working and sleeping this last year.

Did you read our posts? If you could try and be more clear in your posts, it would be helpful. I have no earthly idea what your last 3 posts meant.

I'm not sure what this means. What are you responding to?

Ok, so after a long weekend of digging, your not gonna believe whats happening. My wife was just terribly jumpy Saturday night and had to get out of the house, it was really odd how she almost counldnt control herself at one point. It didn't matter what anyone said to her, it was like she got hit by a truck.

I was worried she was running out of the house to go meet the OM. So I said if you need some space, go take some time for yourself. I gave her 30-45 minutes, then used onstar services to tell me where the vehicle was.............

It was at a casino, yes we live in a casino state, I ran down and there and looked around for 30 minutes. I finally found her at a slot machine, alone. I sat back at a distance and just watched for a while, watching her pump 100.00 bills into this machine. I approached her, and she was stunned, and started crying. I got her up and followed her home, she told me she cant stop gambling. I came home and run a 3 tier credit report.

I found out she had title pawned her/our car, had opened over 20 credit cards and had been using them for cash advances, not one of them I was aware of. After digging around, I found out she's gambled over 35,000 in the last 3 months alone. Information is still trickling in, as she doesn't even know what shes done completely.

Now im in a dilemma of another kind, what the heck do I do now? Her and her friend are addicts.....to gambling. I don't know how to even comprehend how she's put us back YEARS. How shes been robbing peter to pay paul every month to hide the debt. Is this something I should help her with???? or is the deceit to great? I'm in a new fog now, about my future, my kids, and supporting my wife thru an addiction I guess.

I'll take any advice I can get, or just some opinions on the matter. TYVM all for the support you've shown up to now.