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I would be careful in those counselor discussions to avoid delving into anything disrespectful. If you suggest at any point that your wife is "wrong," or "should" take a particular course of action, the counseling will be causing love bank withdrawals. And of course if you engage in some of the more obvious forms of disrespect like namecalling or something.
Dr. Harley usually counsels couples separately so that even before they have learned how to not be disrespectful to each other they can talk to him about the problems they cause each other. And he highly recommends this for marriage counselors.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I will be cautious. I did like the counselor helping me understand how badly I hurt my wife. And the warning signs she was displaying early in our marriage that I wasn't seeing. I won't force anything on my wife. I will use the POJA when disciussing going next week to the counselor.
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I will be cautious. I did like the counselor helping me understand how badly I hurt my wife. That can be very helpful!
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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FWW/BW (me)
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Thank you, it is very helpful to go back and listen to show's advice.
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Thank you, it is very helpful to go back and listen to show's advice. Yes it is. You're very welcome.
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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