About PA being one of your top ENs?

that was in response to the post that physical attractiveness could be one of my emotional needs.

It is making a bit more sense now...

thanks you for the quote I will need to reread it several times to understand exactly what it means.

Here you go Physical Attractiveness

Also if PA is one of your top ENs then it's one of your top ENS. Every individual has their top ENs in their own position.

sorry about typos!

Basically if physical attractiveness is one of my top EN's which I have a feeling it could be I have wondered what is wrong with me.
Why I am rarely attracted to many men, but the truth is I just do not find many physically attractive. I have felt so superficial over the years because of this which has meant I have attempted to have relationships with men I don't find attractive on that level but that met other needs but it has just never worked for me.

The men I do find attractive do reflect me in someway - men that are athletic and also relaxed in their clothing - that do not look like they have made too much effort
That is not to say that I could not make more effort and even in the last couple of days I have started experimenting a little bit more with making a bit more effort! Which has come about from accepting that this is a need that men have...

This is all a revelation to me.

I have had 6 dates in 6 months (was not easy) and 2 dates actually told me they want to feel chemistry within a matter of days or they will break it off.
They do not 'believe' in getting to know eachother first.
They do not believe romantic love can grow from friendship either...

A lot people -both male and female- share that opinion: they want 'passion'.
(little do they know 'passion' actually means 'suffering')

We are all wired to instinctively go for instant gratification rather than sustainability.

That could mean PA is not high on my list. Thank you Brainhurts!