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Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
Even on the web version of Facebook I am unable to even find her or her husband anymore...haven't been able to for quite some time. maybe they did get the messages and blocked me? Idk
They probably did block you.

Did you try setting up another Facebook account (with a different email address) to see if you could find her BH?


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No I haven't done that.


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I will be on the radio show Friday around noon central time if anyone wants to listen in. I really need help with some things. I hope their insight can help.


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Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
I will be on the radio show Friday around noon central time if anyone wants to listen in. I really need help with some things. I hope their insight can help.

Oh good! I'll be listening smile

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Originally Posted by Rocketqueen
Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
I will be on the radio show Friday around noon central time if anyone wants to listen in. I really need help with some things. I hope their insight can help.

Oh good! I'll be listening smile


As will I! grin

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Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
I contacted the OW. Told her how I felt about her. I feel a little better. Some of my anger is diminished. My husband knew I contacted her. I saw that she's been trying to contact him and he hasn't texted back. I can see that. so I told her to leave my husband alone.

A few things, Cherry, that I was wanted to run by you:

1. The OW shouldn't have his phone number to begin with. He needs a new phone number and if you see that she's contacted him, you'll know that he gave her the number.

2. Don't they work together?

3. Did you say that the OW is married? If so, contacting her husband either in person or by phone is imperative. At the very least, exposure to her family/friends/co-workers needs to be "updated" with this latest attempt by her to contact your husband.

You need to be as subtle as an atom bomb in your dealings with this slut so that she gets a very clear message that she picked the wrong woman to mess around with.






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Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
I contacted the OW. Told her how I felt about her. I feel a little better. Some of my anger is diminished. My husband knew I contacted her. I saw that she's been trying to contact him and he hasn't texted back. I can see that. so I told her to leave my husband alone.

A few things, Cherry, that I was wanted to run by you:

1. The OW shouldn't have his phone number to begin with. He needs a new phone number and if you see that she's contacted him, you'll know that he gave her the number.

2. Don't they work together?

3. Did you say that the OW is married? If so, contacting her husband either in person or by phone is imperative. At the very least, exposure to her family/friends/co-workers needs to be "updated" with this latest attempt by her to contact your husband.

You need to be as subtle as an atom bomb in your dealings with this slut so that she gets a very clear message that she picked the wrong woman to mess around with.


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Good luck today, Cherry! You'll do fine

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1) Yes I agree. we will both be changing our numbers.

2) no. they are both police officers but she lives and works 3 hours away.

3) I am still working on the exposure to her family (I didn't know until recently the first one didn't take) I'm at the library now and will log on to full Facebook to see if they haven't blocked me.

Oh and ha ha...when she tested me after I said for her not to contact either of us


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...continued from above...and she had the audacity to say to me "wow. you sound really unreasonable. no wonder he's so unhappy..."

I was like...oh...you haven't seen unreasonable yet!!!


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That all sounds positive and am glad to hear that these loopholes are getting closed.

Good luck on the exposure to her family.


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Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
...continued from above...and she had the audacity to say to me "wow. you sound really unreasonable. no wonder he's so unhappy..."

I was like...oh...you haven't seen unreasonable yet!!!

Oh yeah, I'd definitely be busting the door wide open on her side!



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Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
...continued from above...and she had the audacity to say to me "wow. you sound really unreasonable. no wonder he's so unhappy..."

I was like...oh...you haven't seen unreasonable yet!!!

Oh yeah, I'd definitely be busting the door wide open on her side!
Yes.

Good job Cherry. Let us know how exposure goes.


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ok. I just did the PM exposure to her husband, her mom and her step mom. What was weird is it charged me in British pounds? .67 a message?


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Originally Posted by CherryLatteLuv
ok. I just did the PM exposure to her husband, her mom and her step mom. What was weird is it charged me in British pounds? .67 a message?
Good job.



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Great!

Let's hope that the OW has a lousy weekend!


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Ok....where do I start...the day I did the exposure to the OWs family, he didn't get back to me right away...turns out he is deployed in Africa and it is quite dangerous there right now. he thanked me for letting him know. his mother called me and talked to me for a while . telling me that I was doing the right thing and she also told me that this is not the first time she's done this. (I suspected that) . She checks in on me now and again here lately. the BH. maintains contact with me on facebook and has confronted his wife. she then blew up mine and my husbands phone when she realized I was the one that told her family. I actually spike to her that night for around 45 minutes. it was hell. she apologized and took full responsibility for her actions. I felt she was somewhat genuine.

well she and my wh still maintained that all they did was kiss...but then some trickle truth came out of his mouth about the fact that he sent pics and videos back and forth with her (I can only imagine what of..yuck) and in that moment I knew more was to come.

her husband messaged me again this morning (he is 8 hours ahead of me) the message really disturbed me. he said "your husband has been lying to you. they had been sleeping together for months sitting academy. 2-4 times a week up until graduation. her roommate flunked out so she had a room to herself. started in March. He continued to say. you should get yourself checked because she has herpes from a previous relationship...),:

I am gonna get tested. and I am making my husband get tested and take a paragraph. because if this is true...his blatant disregard my health while he lied to me...will end this relationship. if he doesn't do these things...its on to plan D. I don't know what ill do if my test comes back positive....he's ruined my life...),:


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I hate to tell you this, Cherry, but he is very likely right. Chances are, they have been sleeping together all this time.
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What do you think about what Dr. Harley told you on the show?


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