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Thank you I will read it again...My husband said the word divorce today and I felt ill. Trying not to panic.
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Thank you I will read it again...My husband said the word divorce today and I felt ill. Trying not to panic. Do you have your exposure list together? Who is on that list? When are you exposing?
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He is not admitting to the affair. I now see in their contacts that he loves her... and that she makes him feel special... What can I do... Do I just give up. Not getting any where. Have not done the expose bomb yet... afraid of fallout...
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He is not admitting to the affair. I now see in their contacts that he loves her... and that she makes him feel special... What can I do... Do I just give up. Not getting any where. Have not done the expose bomb yet... afraid of fallout... You need to expose. That is your next step. Who is on your exposure list? When will you be exposing?
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not many people on the list. I don't know any of the people he works with now. He has changed shifts and is working with new officers. He only has his mother and she does not believe me when I tell her that he is having an affair.
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He is not admitting to the affair. I now see in their contacts that he loves her... and that she makes him feel special... What can I do... Do I just give up. Not getting any where. Have not done the expose bomb yet... afraid of fallout... I would move forward with exposure. You don't need the admission of a liar to know truth because you already know the truth. If you won't follow the advice you are given, my friend, there is nothing we can do for you. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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lizet, now is the time or place to be timid or complacent. This is not going to get any better until you make a DECISION TO ACT. Courage is a CHOICE. Everyone is afraid, but the difference between people who make it and people who don't is the CHOICE to take action despite that fear.
Will you make a decision to ACT today? If not, there is nothing we can do to help you.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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not many people on the list. I don't know any of the people he works with now. He has changed shifts and is working with new officers. He only has his mother and she does not believe me when I tell her that he is having an affair. Does he have Facebook?
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Any tips on when.... to expose her family is in another state. only a grandmother here...So not sure it will work too well
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okay you are right... will it work if he feels he loves her and no longer loves me... I guess I have nothing to loose any more.I am no longer working and don't have any place to go.
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Any tips on when.... to expose her family is in another state. only a grandmother here...So not sure it will work too well Sit down and do your exposure in one sitting. Who is on your list? How are you contacting them? Have you read the exposure thread? She is his drug right now and he is addicted to her. You need to do everything you can to break his addiction. Where is he living right now?
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Any tips on when.... to expose her family is in another state. only a grandmother here...So not sure it will work too well Think carefully about how to collect an effective list of exposure targets. Does she have a facebook page? If so, you can expose to them. Is this a workplace affair? If so, prepare to expose there. Go read the exposure thread and start making your list and planning your exposure. Can you do that?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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still here with me... because his mother is also living with us and heel has said if he leaves he said I will kick his mother out.
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Yes a work place affair... But I don't know any of his new co workers. Neither one have Facebook.
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Yes a work place affair... But I don't know any of his new co workers. Neither one have Facebook. Did you actually READ the exposure thread? It is not suggested you expose to coworkers. Please go read the thread and come back with a list and a plan, ok?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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yes is that different from the expore info. Is there two sections.
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yes is that different from the expore info. Is there two sections. Please go read the exposure thread linked in my signature.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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okay I must have misunderstood. I don't expose it to his co-workers. Sorry not thinking strait. O kay I will do my homework. thanks for your help.
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okay I must have misunderstood. I don't expose it to his co-workers. Sorry not thinking strait. O kay I will do my homework. thanks for your help. Good girl! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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