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okay I must have misunderstood. I don't expose it to his co-workers. Sorry not thinking strait. O kay I will do my homework. thanks for your help. We understand, you're going through a very stressful time. You would expose to his boss, her boss, HR and CEO. Then family of yours, his and OW. Make your list and come back here and post your list. Copy the templates in the Exposure thread.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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He is not admitting to the affair. I now see in their contacts that he loves her... and that she makes him feel special... What can I do... Do I just give up. Not getting any where. Have not done the expose bomb yet... afraid of fallout... Lizet, you are paralyzed by fear. This is your problem. Lose the fear and save your marriage! You should be furious about this affair! Stand up and reclaim your marriage! You must expose this! I detect so much hesitance in your posts that I have to wonder if you are serious about saving your marriage. ARE you? Are you in, or out?
D-Day 2-10-2009
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He is not admitting to the affair. I now see in their contacts that he loves her... and that she makes him feel special... What can I do... Do I just give up. Not getting any where. Have not done the expose bomb yet... afraid of fallout... Don't be afraid of the fallout; the fallout is your best shot at saving your marriage. Since he is still denying the affair, you must be ready to present your evidence when you expose. Have the messages, surveillance video, etc. ready to share with your exposure targets, especially his mother.
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Help.....! I confronted him he totally denied it. Now I am sleeping in the spare room. He is very polite that is all. Not sure what to do Get back into your own bed.
D-Day 2-10-2009
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Having recently also discovered my spouse was having an affair, I can testify that exposure is very effective. In my case the pressure from both my children and my WW's parents was enough to eventually make her renounce the relationship (though of course I'm on guard in case she restarts it on the sly).
DDay - July 25, 2013
DDay #2 - January 27, 2014
DDay #3 - June 29, 2014
BS - Me, 39
WW - Her, 36
5 kids
Married 17 yrs.
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