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Mason
If he doesn't honor your request you may just need to enforce boundaries yourself.
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Yes, they are around her now. After the divorce was final. He will not stay away from the games. I will die if he brings her to any. I can't control this.
Me BW 43 / WH 44
2 DS 7 and 4
D day 8-2010
Asked him to leave 9-10
Exposed 11-10
FR 1-2011
Back with OW / In Plan B 2-11
False Recovery Back in Plan B 7-12
Divorced
Better Life in Progress!
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Mason i am very sorry.
He Is a very selfish uncaring man.
If he comes I suggest you sit as far away from him as possible.
If he approaches you or talks to you ignore him and walk away
Do you have friends you can talk to that come to the games?
They can help insulate you from him
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I would go one better and shame him into not bringing her to the games. I would tell all the parents on your team who she is and that she is your XH's affair partner. I would then tell XH that everyone knows about his affair and that she is the OW so don't bother bringing her around.
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I would go one better and shame him into not bringing her to the games. I would tell all the parents on your team who she is and that she is your XH's affair partner. I would then tell XH that everyone knows about his affair and that she is the OW so don't bother bringing her around. Good idea. I was a coach for my DD's soccer team and this very thing happened. One of her teammates mom let everyone know who her WH's OW was and yes they were D. To say the least the OW stopped coming to the games.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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My figurative hat is off to that woman!
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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My figurative hat is off to that woman! I know, right?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Thanks for the advice. I am so happy I was honest with my boys and that they know who the OW is. My youngest (4) saw a picture of his dad and started crying, saying how he missed daddy. He said his dream was never going to come true and it all because of "that girl". I did not think he understood what I said but he did. Of course he tried to facetime him and it was turned off. His behavior has not changed even after the divorce.
Anyway what he said made me sad, but my dream did not come true either. I wish he came out of the fog atleast for the boys... he never will.
Last edited by mason; 09/13/13 09:59 AM.
Me BW 43 / WH 44
2 DS 7 and 4
D day 8-2010
Asked him to leave 9-10
Exposed 11-10
FR 1-2011
Back with OW / In Plan B 2-11
False Recovery Back in Plan B 7-12
Divorced
Better Life in Progress!
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