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Is there a question in there for us to help you with? It sounds to me like you're just trying to get a message through to her using unapproved channels.
If there is something you're willing to utilize our help with, please ask. We will do all we can to help you recover, and to be the best husband and father you can be. That's what we want for anyone who comes here - to heal and to reach their full potential.
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So, on top of your adultery with you ex-wife, you have decided that your best course of action is to tear her children away from her?
I don't see how this is going to help you save your marriage, or are you here for a different purpose now? If you are here to screw over your Betrayed wife, I will not be able to help you with that. If my WH tried to win me back by taking my children away from me, it would have the complete opposite effect.
Have you been working on yourself?
Have you had contact with your ex-wife lately?
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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how everyone just let you know the big D day is sept.9
don't guess she wanted to try and work on it .not spoke a word to me in over a year she toke the kids want let me see are talk to them well guess that life huh ...oh well kids will grow up and hope they don't hate her for it oh well tell her I love her anyway and take care hope she happy tell her call sometime maybe we could meet for lunch well all yall take care and tell her take care and if you would tell her if she every want to try and work it out give me a call love you
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oh well hope she happy punishing our kids all she care about is herself and her money
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how everyone just let you know the big D day is sept.9 You mean you sat there for a year and let this happen instead of posting here and spending this time learning how to fix your marriage? Wow.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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don't guess she wanted to try and work on it Let's not rewrite history. You're the one who didn't do the work. not spoke a word to me in over a year Good. That's exactly what Dr. Harley advises a wife to do when her wayward husband won't fix things. she toke the kids want let me see are talk to them well guess that life huh Yeah, I guess so. huh oh well kids will grow up Oh well. and hope they don't hate her for it oh well Oh well. She will be only if you leave her alone or perform a cranial rectal extraction, I'm sure. Stop attempting to reinjure the victim for your own selfish gain. That would be against Dr. Harley's advice, though, wouldn't it? Wouldn't that be the WRONG thing for her to do if she wants to recover the marriage? Wouldn't that lead to her being unhappy? maybe we could meet for lunch well all yall take care and tell her take care and if you would tell her if she every want to try and work it out give me a call love you If you ever want to try and work it out, start working.
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oh well hope she happy punishing our kids all she care about is herself and her money Oh well.
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how everyone just let you know the big D day is sept.9 You mean you sat there for a year and let this happen instead of posting here and spending this time learning how to fix your marriage? Wow. If that is truly the case, then you don't deserve her.
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Hey, did you do this stuff, or is posting here a complete waste of time?  Pep Sam, I recommend that you make a step-by-step plan for how you are going to regain your honor and decency. I know you feel like a total screwup right now, and well you should. That's a good thing, as long as those awful guilt and shame feelings lead you to something better. You're messed up right now, but you don't have to stay that way. A few things for starters: 1. You have other serious issues besides adultery. Get help and accountability for those in an appropriate setting. All we can do is cheer you on - it's outside our scope of practice. 2. Turn to God. He is the very best One to change you, and make you into a whole new man. He said, "Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow." Looking out my window, that fresh snow is pretty white. You can be clean and holy. If you want to know more, many of us here are Christians and can answer any questions you may have. 3. Continue the plan 2sweet laid out for healing from the adultery. You made a good start with NC, putting in EP's, and sending the letter. Continue to learn and grow in this area. This is so important for the man you will be, and the example you will set for your children. 4. Don't give up on yourself. You can change. Believe that. 5. Do all this with no expectations, and without trying to be close to 2sweet. Do it for yourself, and for your children. Do it because it's the right thing to do, and you are a person who has chosen to do what is right. That will do for starters. 
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Besides, it's not too late. You just don't want to have to do what it takes.
So admit the truth: "I don't care enough about 2sweet to do what it takes."
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Freeloader is unwilling to put much effort into the care of his or her partner in a romantic relationship. He or she does only what comes naturally and expects only what comes naturally. It's like a person who tries to live in a house without paying rent or doing anything to improve it unless the person is in the mood to do so.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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how everyone just let you know the big D day is sept.9
don't guess she wanted to try and work on it .not spoke a word to me in over a year she toke the kids want let me see are talk to them well guess that life huh ...oh well kids will grow up and hope they don't hate her for it oh well tell her I love her anyway and take care hope she happy tell her call sometime maybe we could meet for lunch well all yall take care and tell her take care and if you would tell her if she every want to try and work it out give me a call love you Why should she talk to you if you are still in your affair and you haven't done ANYTHING to change and recover your marriage? Dr. Harley would tell her to continue with what she's doing. Can you even tell us ONE thing you've done to clean up your side of the street?
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Thank you, Sam.
I'm going to bookmark this thread. When I inevitably get once again frustrated with certain facets of this peer-counseling vocation (ministry?), I'll have this to re-read, and realize that there may yet be an indecisive BW who will need my special...skills...(in addition to Neak's, Markos's, ML's, etc), as 2sweet did in January 2012.
If you're ever in the Mid-Hudson area of New York, let's do lunch!
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she toke the kids want let me see are talk to them well guess that life huh ... More waywardness -- playing the victim card and demonizing your BW for not being able to see your kids. Those of us who have been thru the D process know that this simply isn't true. You have legal rights to see your kids unless the courts thought there was a reason you shouldn't.
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The same old Sam is back. A long break in posting, but no letup of the adultery fog. Whether the A is on or off, you my friend are wayward in the deepest levels of your heart. It's your choice whether you stay that way. A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.
~ Ezekiel 36:26 Welcome back! Are you here to work, or to whine?
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The crickets are deafening.
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The crickets are deafening.
Not crickets - behavioral Palmetto Bugs....
(Look 'em up!)
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hey ask her to give me a call if she dont like what she hears she can hang up right it up to her just though i ask yall take care
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That is sad that you are trying to use this forum to break plan B. I suggest you refer to the earlier posts on your thread for some awesome advice.
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