Keep exposing to everyone and anyone close to her! You're doing great!

No she said she will not leave because she doesn't have to. Legally I can not kick her out!

Another friend of mine?

I told all her friends that I had there numbers. They all are discusted and say she has changed something terrible. She is going down the wrong path. Get a lawyer fast!!!!!

How old are your children?

Do you want to take care of your children by yourself, for the rest of time?

What role would you like your wife to have with the children, after your divorce is final?

13 and 10 I will sacrifice anything for them.

You need to expose this affair to your kids. Tell them when mom's/ dad's get married they do not have BF's/GS's. Well mom has a BF and has been going on dates with OM (this is where you tell them the OM name). What mom is doing is known as having an affair. Mom's affair is going to break up our family.

You are vague in your responses to direct questions. That is bad on many levels.

Knowing this I ask exactly who have you exposed?

Targets

OMW, OM parents, OM FB friends.

WW parents and siblings, WW FB friends.

Did this affair start at work the you must expose at work.

There is no reason in the world to start planning that right now, while he is in shock and probably cannot think to make long term decisions. When he feels better he may decide he wants to try to save his marriage.

In the meantime, he absolutely needs to be doing everything possible to disrupt this affair. Even if he chooses to divorce later, it would be best for the affair to die sooner rather than later. Especially for the children!

Have you been through the exposure 101 thread and followed each of the suggestions there? You want to make sure that all exposure happens at once as quickly as possible, to maximize the effect.

Sons? Daughters? They need to know who OM is. If you have any daughters, they need to know that OM may be a predator and they should not be alone with him.

Have you confronted the OM? Contact him and tell him to stay away from your wife and kids. Warn him that if your marriage goes to divorce, you will drag him into court to testify about the adultery.

Most OM are like roaches and will scurry away from such light.

Even if you don't want to stay married to your wife, scare the OM away! With his low morals he is much more likely to be a danger to your children and bad influence on them.

If this goes to divorce, do you want OM raising your children???

Yes to 101 and confronted all.

edited (posted on wrong thread, sorry)

Who all did you expose to on WW's side?

On OM's side?

Have you told your children?

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moderators note: Please familiarize yourself with Dr Harley's advice regarding affairs and stop disrupting this thread

Senator_H,

Because you quoted "BlindSighted2013" on Ah's thread in your post, it's unclear to me who you are addressing. If indeed you are addressing Ah though I would like to say to you, with all due respect, it truly isn't the time to be firing off the kinds of things you are at him. This man has just experienced his second Dday in a short period of time -- that is VERY traumatic, and he is very likely in shock right now. As Markos advised earlier in this thread, Ah doesn't need to make big decisions at this point -- it is not time for him to worry about most of the things you continue to bring up to him. I realize you gave a bit of a disclaimer at the end of your post, however, when someone has just experienced what Ah has, overwhelming them with questions regarding decisions they may or may not have to make in the future isn't helpful, and could actually be harmful. I hope you will give careful consideration to what I've said.

Mrs. W

Ah,

How are you doing? Please give us an update.

Mrs. W

Feeling stronger today. I am morning the loss of my marriage. My kids are the priority.

I'm am relieved its been all exposed and know we are done. To many lies and deception again. She has serious issues and I prey she finds help. She going to regret this a million times over. I must move on!! I can not live this way!!! She has changed over the last few years i and her close friends don't know who she is.

Who on WW's side did you expose to?

Who on OM's side did you expose to?

Glad to hear you are feeling stronger, Ah. While no one would fault you for ending your marriage at this point, if you want to save it, it is still possible. My advice would be to give yourself a little time before deciding for sure. It is in the best interest of your children to have their parents remain together and fall madly in love with each other -- The Marriage Builders program can make that an attainable goal.

Mrs. W