Originally Posted by Gamma
There is a possibility that your son witnessed your WHs infidelity, and that is a partial cause of his sadness. It may be a relief for him to find out that you know, and it may remove the horrible burden of having to lie to his Mother from him.

I say this because when I was young a number of my friends had witnessed their parents infidelity and told me about it. What was common to each case was that the kids took on the guilt of keeping it from the other parent. In all cases it was told to me under the condition I keep it a secret.


This occurred to me too. It would also explain his past conflicts with his dad.

It's amazingly common for the BS to summon the courage to 'expose' the A and then to discover everyone knows - or at least suspected - any way.

Either way she can't lie to her son and needs to get this out of the way. Then she will discover if he already knows.

What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.