Good Afternoon TranquilDark, All,

Firstly thank you for sending me the link to the exposure thread. It took me some time but I was finally able to compile all of the information needed to expose. I went nuclear on 11/6/13. I exposed to my family and friends, OM spouse, OM employer, OM family & friends, WS parents, friends, immediate family, everyone but the dog. (The Facebook instructions were very helpful too...) It went as the forum predicted, my friends and family rallied around me with support, WS parents too. OM spouse was greatful for the information however the OM had already moved out to his own apartment. It may help her since she has a newborn by the scumbag. WS and her friends have painted me as a villian and vindictive. (Threatening someone's livelyhood by contacting OM's job. I started an investigation with the inspector general of the MTA for conduct and possible insurance fraud violations...)

November 7th was truely a difficult day with nothing but AO from my WS for most of the day. I remained civil but would not entertain that what I did was wrong. This is truely a difficult time. My W did calm down this evening and for the first time explained her side to the A with complete details. She has now told me that she is ending the A. She is now insisting that we go to M counseling. I did agree but I am concerned that this might be the "calm before a storm". With my heart broken and my trust shattered I feel completely lost. In my recordings before going nuclear her plan was just to make it through the holidays and then push an exit strategy. How can I know if she is truely genuine with this latest discussion to reconcile? What should be my next steps now? Stellar Plan A even though she appears to hate me or might be trying to lead me along?

If your WW is willing to end her A.make sure she does so by writing a No contact letter to the OM. There are templates of this letter here it has to be written by her read and approved by you and mailed together.

As far as marriage counselling goes stick with MB. There are serious consequences to taking a foggy WW to a MC that does not follow MB guidelines.

Remember talk is cheap, if she is truly willing to end this A you need to request the NC letter and total transparency, have all her passwords and be able to monitor her phone.

Yes you are in the full force of Plan A.

Huge Kudos for doing exposure the right way! See how it immediately made WW start talking the affair is over. That does not mean you quit snooping. For now you can' "trust but verify". She will have to send the NC letter and come up with the EPs.

MC would be a waste of time and money unless with a MB counselor. Spend the money on one of the packages here, it's so much cheaper than divorce. She already wants counseling, make sure it's counseling that works.

Does your wife know the OM's wife has a newborn? Or was he lying that he had already separated?