Not to side-track this thread, BUT...

here is the issue:

Fair and impartial treatment of students is part of the code of ethics of Alada's profession. Because of the adultery between Alada's husband and her student, Alada cannot possibly grade this woman's work fairly and impartially. Due to this fatal conflict of interest, the instructor-student relationship MUST end.

A low or failing grade in a course is likely to have repercussions for the student. For example, the student may have to retake the course, at a financial loss (because the student will need to pay for the course twice). Additionally, a low or failing grade on a transcript may have longer-term effects, such as a student's reduced ability to complete a certificate or degree program, obtain acceptance into a graduate program or obtain employment. Alada's OW would likely file a grievance, arguing that her low grade reflected bias on Alada's part, not her actual work in the course. The OW may also argue that Alada created a hostile learning environment for her. Unfortunately, "she is sleeping with my husband" is NOT a valid reason for an instructor to create a hostile learning environment. An instructor can NEVER create a hostile learning environment for ANY reason; it is counter to the code of ethics of the profession.

When the OW files her grievance and presents her evidence, directions to not attend classes, print-outs of exposure letters and tales of screaming matches over the phone will NOT work in Alada's favor.

As a more far more dramatic, but parallel example, do you think a doctor who is a BW should treat her husband's OW immediately following D-day? If the BW did, and the OW suffered and filed a malpractice suit, how'd you think it would turn out? (Yes, I understand that life-saving medical procedures and coursework are not the same, but I think the issue of imbalance of power is being missed).

'Nuff said.

Caveat emptor.

BV

Not to side-track this thread, BUT...

here is the issue:

Fair and impartial treatment of students is part of the code of ethics of Alada's profession. Because of the adultery between Alada's husband and her student, Alada cannot possibly grade this woman's work fairly and impartially. Due to this fatal conflict of interest, the instructor-student relationship MUST end.

A low or failing grade in a course is likely to have repercussions for the student. For example, the student may have to retake the course, at a financial loss (because the student will need to pay for the course twice). Additionally, a low or failing grade on a transcript may have longer-term effects, such as a student's reduced ability to complete a certificate or degree program, obtain acceptance into a graduate program or obtain employment. Alada's OW would likely file a grievance, arguing that her low grade reflected bias on Alada's part, not her actual work in the course. The OW may also argue that Alada created a hostile learning environment for her. Unfortunately, "she is sleeping with my husband" is NOT a valid reason for an instructor to create a hostile learning environment. An instructor can NEVER create a hostile learning environment for ANY reason; it is counter to the code of ethics of the profession.

When the OW files her grievance and presents her evidence, directions to not attend classes, print-outs of exposure letters and tales of screaming matches over the phone will NOT work in Alada's favor.

As a more far more dramatic, but parallel example, do you think a doctor who is a BW should treat her husband's OW immediately following D-day? If the BW did, and the OW suffered and filed a malpractice suit, how'd you think it would turn out? (Yes, I understand that life-saving medical procedures and coursework are not the same, but I think the issue of imbalance of power is being missed).

'Nuff said.

Caveat emptor.

BV

In regards to my marriage, we are making progress, but I still have my head full of images and words. I'm also very sad to know WH is not coming back to school ever. We made an enourmous effort to get him into college, but there is no way he can come back or go somewhere else, at least not for now.

We have a meeting with our priest today. We scheduled a meeting with a counselor last week, but had to cancel it, I didn't have money.

It's from WH, not from you. I see no reason why that would affect you professionally. I also see no reason to wait. Make a clean cut now, since WH is currently willing to do so, and begin healing.

If you put this off, you'll still be essentially at Square 1 in 4 weeks. Without a compelling reason to wait, I think it should just be sent.

Then I would file a grievance inlf necessary OR write to dr harley and tell the dean you have consulted with a clinical psychologist and he has advised ypu not to have further contact with this woman for emotional health reasons.