As I was reading your thread I was thinking the same thing .... the reason he moved out in June was b/c of the A.

You need to do a complete strategic exposure as Mel has advised, the longer an A continues without any interference the more entrenched it becomes. You may also find some welcome support as people start to re think WH's spiel " we got together after we separated"

I'm sorry your FIL has failed to support your M, sadly there are many ILS who are conflict avoiders and/or find it easier to believe the wayward spin.


Me 46yrs
WH 46yrs "Isildur"
Married: 22yrs 8mths
DS 9yrs;DD 19yrs;DS 21yrs
Bomb drop:marriage not working don't know if ILY 12.11.11
DD:26.11.11
WH moves to OW house 28.11.11
Formal MB Plan A 14.4.12
Plan B 27.4.12
D:20.7.14

"There are moments in life that make us & set the course of who we become. Sometimes they're little & subtle,sometimes they're big & we never saw them coming. No one asks for their life to change, but it does. It's what we do afterwards that counts & we find out who we are."