Thw reason I encourge a vacation together is because it provides opportunity to make love bank deposits.
However I went on a family vacation while my wife was having an affair and she texted OM and went for long walks alone while we were on vacation (probably talking to him)

In Plan A you want to meet as many emotional needs as possible but if ahe starts texting or calling OM I would accidently spill some coffee on her phone so its inoperable.

How often are you seeing your daughter? She's at the in laws?

Edit: Had to move my text out of the quotes
I am seeing my Daughter almost everyday. Due to my long commute and anger management and individual counseling, I try to see her as much as possible. Sunday's I take her out by herself and spend time with her for a few hours. Normally lunch and an activity.

Would there be certain gift purchases that are wise to do during plan A and some that are not. Like buying a ring be ok?

Have you asked your preacher fil to persuade his daughter to end her affair?

Personally I thinj it would be a bad choice and I would save the money for an attorney.
Otherwise she may just pawn the ring

Man, your tough...but your probably right...

When it comes to sex for men, after finding out their wife had an affair, is it normal for men to lose interest in sex to a certain degree or not be interested in it at all with their spouse after disclosure?

Just want to express myself here:
My wife is now all Jealous of the woman I work with at work. She said she is jealous, but how can she be jealous when she disconnected from for 2 over years and have an affair and then say now she is jealous over a woman, who yes is nice looking and is fun to talk to and shows me respect.

It seems ridiculous that she would even care after having sex with another man, let a lone another relationship. I actually had to re-assure her I have boundaries in place to protect against this. I am not interested in this woman and will make sure to have my boundaries up. I am trying to make this work but the fact she thinks:
1. I am going to go back to porn.
2. I am going to kill her based off a stupid statement.

1. I know the pain of porn especially now she has an affair.
2. I would never hurt her since I still love her even though now I am finding myself slowly disconnecting from her and almost not having feelings for her... I am trying hard to stick to plan A but at times I feel like saying time to move on.
3. At my porn recovery group tonight, we watched a video called "Helping Her Heal". I can honestly see why our marriage went down the road it is now and I understand the pain all too well.

Too all the hurt spouses, I wish you never had to go through this pain, and for those who are trying to regain back their spouses, you are a blessing and keep going when the tough gets going and don't give up. Be patient and help your spouse heal.

I wish I had done a better job during my porn recovery, so I could of helped me wife and maybe this would have not happened, but unfortunately. I am not taking responsibility for the affair, because that is her choice and she in reality could of just divorce me and left instead of lying to me, hiding the truth from me for 2 years.

Then she has the nerve to tell me she disconnected from me, and then choose a man who also suffers from Porn Addiction. What sense does that even make. Now I have to sit here in this house alone and make the best of it by trying to appease her who, shows no remorse or care for me and the pain I am going through, or was...

I am in a place now where I do feel like I can forgive and move forward somewhat... She said she just trying to survive. The sad part is I am supposed to feel sorry for her because she had just lost a relationship, that was based off nothing on fantasy and she escaped from the reality.

God says we can divorce if they commit adultery...God also says he gave us the ministry of Reconciliation. I ask you, which is the higher road...

Yes. I would be scared of dying from AIDS absent an STD test..

Plan A is difficult because you give without getting anything in return.
That's why Harley recommends it for 6 months, before going to plan B

My wife is now texting me and saying she is fat. I am telling her she is not. What you think about that. am I doing the right thing. How should I respond? Is this a tactic so she can get me to say yes your right and I am leaving you?

I found one of the gifts he gave my wife during some snooping. Should I throw it away, or should she? It was hiding in her clothes drawer.

Did you bring up the vacation idea?

Throw the gift, that she received from OM, away.

She brought up the vacation idea. Is that recommended I throw it away.

CS,

Yes. I would be scared of dying from AIDS absent an STD test..

Or dying from a HPV caused head or genital cancer 10 or20 years from now.

God Bless
Gamma

Thanks. I will take note of that, because I really shouldn't have sex with her even though I use a condom.

My wife texted me and just said she is ready to answer some of my questions. What should I do then?

I was infected with HPV16 by the fat slag. That is the most aggressive of the types that can cause cervical cancer. Fortunately I get regular checkups so this was spotted at about the time I found out about her. I am unable to shake off the infection so I have to be very carefully monitored.

She's coming over now to tell me something's. Please pray for strength and that I don't get angry.

Plan A response: "I think you are absolutely beautiful"