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WW are different WH.

Dr. Harley says it very common for WWs to never show any remorse. Yet a WH must come hat in hand on bended knee for a BW to even consider recovery.

It's even different as to how long Dr. H will recommend Plan A for BW(3 weeks top and then go into Plan B) where a BH can last 6 months to 2 years.

It is very common for a WW to take a very long time to come out of the Fog and see the error of her ways, if ever.

Have you read Jon and Sue's story in SAA?


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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
WW are different WH.

Dr. Harley says it very common for WWs to never show any remorse. Yet a WH must come hat in hand on bended knee for a BW to even consider recovery.

It's even different as to how long Dr. H will recommend Plan A for BW(3 weeks top and then go into Plan B) where a BH can last 6 months to 2 years.

It is very common for a WW to take a very long time to come out of the Fog and see the error of her ways, if ever.

Have you read Jon and Sue's story in SAA?


I read the story. I figured my wife was different. ... I hope she was different. Well, I am doing 6 months and after that... I am throwing in the towel.


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I suggest you email Dr Harley and ask for advice.
Include your phone number so you can be on the air and he can ask you questions

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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
I suggest you email Dr Harley and ask for advice.
Include your phone number so you can be on the air and he can ask you questions

I emailed them my story.


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I just read some texts between my father n law and my ww and she says she loves the OM. They are older texts.


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Yes. Shes probably madly in love with him

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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Yes. Shes probably madly in love with him
I literally got sick when I saw them, and had to stop the car and almost vomited.
She said in response to that:
1. the OM only loves himself
2. That was right after the whole thing came out so I don't even know how I feel about him.
3. You shouldn't read peoples personal text.
4. I don't know how I feel about anything. I told you that.

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I've been there, friend

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Sheesh, I'm there now. In happier news nice screen name, I might jack it lol.

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Yea, that was one of the worst feelings I ever had.


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Is it possible the OM was a better lover than me? I heard affair sex is supposed to be great and in some cases women feel humiliated by having sex with the OM.

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Your opinions?

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Yes.
In the book Surviving an Affair, Dr Harley describes how Sue found that the sex with Greg was incredible, while she hated having sex with Jon.
The reason? She was emotionally connected with Greg instead of her husband.

That is why Dr Harley encourages couples to follow the recovery plan in Surviving an Affair, which restores romantic love into marriages.

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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Yes.
In the book Surviving an Affair, Dr Harley describes how Sue found that the sex with Greg was incredible, while she hated having sex with Jon.
The reason? She was emotionally connected with Greg instead of her husband.

That is why Dr Harley encourages couples to follow the recovery plan in Surviving an Affair, which restores romantic love into marriages.


This is such a hard battle...


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I just found OM#2 on facebook. Confronting him now.


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Originally Posted by ChristianSamuari
I just found OM#2 on facebook. Confronting him now.
Is he married?


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No, some single guy who doesn't have a future at all.


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Make sure you expose OM 2 to her parents and everyone else also.
Expose to his parents and friends also

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SPOSOM hasn't responded to my messages.


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Originally Posted by ChristianSamuari
SPOSOM hasn't responded to my messages.

You have to send them from a PC and pay $1 for the message to go to the "in" box rather than the unseen "other" box. Did you do that?


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I messaged him on FaceBook. that's how I found him.


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