I hope, I am glad you can smile and feel good.

I took inventory of her Emotional Needs. Going to try and execute those next.

I keep seeing your buddy icon and think your smiling all the time...

I don't think this is working for me... I might try another plan, meeting her needs is just not working... I think I am going to just disengage her all together. I am worrying too much and it is causing me to much stress. I got to take care of myself, she screwed up, and got her feelings in a bind for some other man. I can't compete as long as she's in withdrawal/fog...

I will try later. still going to go away but now i feel different about it...

Are you doing any investigating aka snooping?

Part of plan A is busting up the affair. Has she agreed to a NC letter?

Also, stop bringing up the affair(s). Keep the conversation light and pleasant.

Aren't you two going away together? Where and when are you going?

Have you read any of Dr. Harley's books?

Do not bring up any relationship talk. Let her and when she does state what JK said and politely change the subject.

Refresh my memory, but didn't you write Dr. Harley?

Your problems in marriage have as much to do with your living conditions as
they do with your wife's unfaithfulness. There are so many changes that
must be made that I hardly know where to start. First and foremost, you and
your wife should work the same hours, and be home together every night.
There should be no relatives living with you. You need privacy. Your
ability to meet each other's emotional needs during the past few years
has been almost nonexistent. She has affairs with people that she spends
time with and who meet her emotional needs. You've rarely been with her.
While your anger is certainly something that must end (I'd encourage you to
avoid swords or any other kind of weapon altogether), your marriage is hardly
satisfying to either of you. Your time away will be an opportunity to
discuss how you would change your living conditions, and how you could
pay for it. Learn to support each other without help from others. If your
wife doesn't want to continue her marriage with you, I'd hang on a while
longer to be sure that she doesn't change her mind. If she divorces you, she's
likely to go from the frying pan into the fire. I'd also make sure that
your child is really yours. Get a blood test for the child to be
certain. I'd also see an attorney to be sure that you understand your options if your wife were to divorce you.

Best wishes,
Dr. Harley

So I told her how I was feeling because of the affairs and she the following:
WW: I am sorry.
BH: I be there in a few. You ok?
WW: Just feel like this will plague our lives forever.
WW: Just having a sad day
BH: What will plague our lives forever?
WW: This whole situation.
BH: I still believe we can have a healthy marriage where we can meet each others needs. I believe we can get past all of this.

How's that? Is this a good start to a solid plan A?

I am feeling more hopeful and confident now...how odd.

Are there any plain examples of PLAN A anywhere that I can model?

Nevermind, I am finding some helpful information here:http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2296184&page=3

I'm going to bump a couple Plan A threads for you to read.