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Re: 29 year affair
Jedi_Knight #2779802 01/31/14 11:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Dr. Harley addressed your email on the Radio Show today.

He encouraged you to speak with family, friends and church and tell them the truth and ask for their support.

So now that we have wasted an entire week waiting to hear what we already knew, perhaps we can help this poster with next steps? i always encourage posters to write Dr Harley when we can't find the correct solution, but when we already know the solution, it just serves to unnecessarily delay obvious and necessary steps.

Dapoc, can we help you with next steps?

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Re: 29 year affair
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Here's your question.
Radio Clip of dapoc's question

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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
Re: 29 year affair
BrainHurts #2783743 02/17/14 11:42 PM
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This affair, as Dr. H says

is causing a trauma of extraordinary dimensions.

I feel it is good that it was addressed by him directly. That Dapoc can not discuss it verbally with those around her shows the absolute depth of it and she needs to know that though it is horrific to talk about........doing so will create strength for her. She will be purging the trauma as she releases the information to others. Some people will support her and help her deal with her pain.
There will be clueless people who do not help her but there will be angels out there to hold her hand and give her support. Those supportive people are worth the bravery of exposing it. They will help her heal.
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