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Also, should I call him or text him. Calling him would probably be better I imagine because that means he can't say anything to her that i said right.


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I believe I got his mothers number and I got his number as well. What should I say?


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Maybe I should go there myself after work?


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Or should I get my father in law to call her from his phone and I call him? Trying to figure out what a good approach is to this?


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For a small one time fee, you can use a site such ad Net Detective to get a complete background and profile, plus i believe you can get his e-mail address and phone number.

If you get a cell phone number instead of landline number you can use Reverse Cell Phone trace.

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Originally Posted by LearnedTooLate
For a small one time fee, you can use a site such ad Net Detective to get a complete background and profile, plus i believe you can get his e-mail address and phone number.

If you get a cell phone number instead of landline number you can use Reverse Cell Phone trace.

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I got phone numbers and address. I underestimate my computer abilities. I could technically trick him into meeting me if I wanted to.


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Remember, Plan A is not sitting back and being afraid to upset the wayward spouse. Part of plan A is demanding that all aspects of the environment that led to the affair are removed. You cannot cower and be absent of assertiveness.

You have every right to RESPECTFULLY say how you feel about her not mentioning OMuntil 24 later and not excusexcusing herself immediately.


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Originally Posted by kilted_thrower
Remember, Plan A is not sitting back and being afraid to upset the wayward spouse. Part of plan A is demanding that all aspects of the environment that led to the affair are removed. You cannot cower and be absent of assertiveness.

You have every right to RESPECTFULLY say how you feel about her not mentioning OMuntil 24 later and not excusexcusing herself immediately.


Ok. I will say something. I have to stand up to her.


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I would go over to his house and speak with his mother. If you see him do not get angry or violent just expose to his mother and tell him to stay away from your wife.

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Originally Posted by TranquilDark
I would go over to his house and speak with his mother. If you see him do not get angry or violent just expose to his mother and tell him to stay away from your wife.


I am going over... I been going to anger management classes. Hopefully I will be ok.


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Originally Posted by TranquilDark
I would go over to his house and speak with his mother. If you see him do not get angry or violent just expose to his mother and tell him to stay away from your wife.


I am going over... I been going to anger management classes. Hopefully I will be ok.

Good advice by TD. You are a hit man, and you are assassinating the affair, not the cheaters. So do it like hit men do, with cold blooded tactical precision.

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I should just I introduce myself and say please tell your son to leave my family alone?


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Yes:

My name is Bob and I came here because I have evidence that your son has been having an affair with my wife.
We have a 3 year old daughter and the affair has devastated us.
Can you please persuade your son to end his affair with my wife?

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Did you go over? Did you expose to his mom?


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How'd it go CS? I hope your logical thoughts overrode the thoughts of pounding in OM's face. God bless!

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Originally Posted by TranquilDark
How'd it go CS? I hope your logical thoughts overrode the thoughts of pounding in OM's face. God bless!

You're probably right, TD. Call me old fashioned, but sometimes I think these POS's deserve old fashioned justice.




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only in a perfect world. Good clip and equally good movie!

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Ok... I haven't confronted him yet. I drove by his house, but got a little antsy and decided not to confront him due to a possible fight.


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This advice sucks...sorry... but Harley wants to go to the guy and be cordial...Ahh! I rather whip his butt. Well, I better grow a pair and go over there.

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