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Re: Need some advice
Chobitz #2782588 02/12/14 05:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Chobitz
People usually only separate for one of two reasons:
1. There has been so much lovebusting in the marriage that they can't stand being in each other's presence any more.

This reason is almost UNHEARD OF on this forum. We have to beg, plead and persuade abused spouses to leave their spouses. We have women here that we have been asking to leave their husbands FOR YEARS and they still have not left.

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2. They have found someone else.

99.9% of the cases.

People who come here desperately want to believe there is any reason OTHER than an affair and that is why it is so important to not lead them to believe that is likely. It is almost ALWAYS an affair when a spouse wants a separation. Abused spouses rarely separate on their own.

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Re: Need some advice
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Both spouses have the right to know where the other is at any time. Even if one is just "going out for drinks." Just be careful how it is done or it could get misunderstood.

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