So I heard back, long story short has seen it before and is concerned that he could end up killing me my daughter and himself in a paranoid rage. Said his symptoms are essentially untreatable and it sounds like he has a brain injury (he did suffer a seere head injury before i met him over 14 years ago) has overdosed on a drug or possibly had a sroke that has gone undetected. Either way i have been told he is too dangerous and i should avoid going back. How could i ignore the advice of someone so experienced? I have got the house on the market and his clinical psychologist rang me and wanted my side of things, i told her as much as i could in half an hour i just hope she got it all. A friend of mine who is also friends with my husband told me she hasnt even touched on the issues with our marriage with him yet because she wanted to talk to me first. Going by that he still has no diagnoses. He rang to say goodnight to our daughter last week (my mum takes the calls) and our daughter mentioned to him that i was at a meeting (it was with womans refuge) he got so worked up over me being out I am now too scared to go anywhere. Needless to say if I feel like that after being apart from him for 3months im not going back and i now have to admit to myself that my marriage is over. He is not the man i married, its like hes posessed.