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Originally Posted by Danu
If he was up to something he would have to be pretty good - he would basically have the opportunity between 9:00 - 11.30am & 1.00 to 4:30pm Mon- Fri only!
That said, should I get a Keylogger anyway? I hadn't though of it until I saw it on here.

Yes, Dr. Harley strongly encourages spouses that suspect cheating to snoop.
As a general rule, we should never do anything without enthusiastic agreement between us and our spouse (POJA).
However, the exception to this rule is when there is risk of safety or health. Adultery is a risk to personal health.

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Originally Posted by Danu
He hasn't cheated in 4 years. I know for sure due to monitoring and we are never apart and have never been apart overnight since. He even drives from his work to mine to meet me for lunch every day.

Also is there any point contacting any of the other women now? To tell them he wasn't single and about all the other women he was in contact with? And to end by asking did they sleep with him? Maybe I would get more truth that way to hang him with if we embark on the MB program and he still keeps up the lies.

OW#1 was very angry about it and I also told her there were others like herself whom he fooled. So maybe they would all tell me the truth for that reason.

None of them was even an OW because each thought he was single. They didn't know of each other either and I must say from his texts/emails, he was quite the charmer and very adept at giving each the impression she was the only woman who ever existed!
I feel I might get somewhere at last one way or another by having found MB. lashes


Dr. Harley encourages exposure to kill an affair or to help protect against unhealthy acts (like drug use).
If the affairs ended four years ago, I don't know if Dr. Harley would encourage contacting all the OW; I think he would encourage following the recovery plan in Surviving an Affair. He would encourage you to expose to family and close friends for support;

Has your husband agreed to follow Dr. Harley's recovery plan?

You may want to consider emailing Dr. Harley for advice or to speak with him on his Radio Show (mbradio@marriagebuilders.com); or consider utilizing the MB Coaching services also. (link is on the main website)

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Are you going to expose his affairs?

Are you going to ask him to submit to a polygraph?


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