ATW,<BR>There is nothing that you can't get through after you have gotten this far. God only gives us what he knows we can handle, and you still have him. There is a reason for every thing, I'm thinking that you will have some good news to tell us someday in a different direction, What a special person you are. Someone will find you. <BR>((((((( Hug))))))) <P>------------------<BR>"TIME" :)<P><BR>

ATW -- You have done all you can do. You have shown such patience and resilience through these months. I will pray for you both.

ATW, At the risk of sounding like PollyAnna, Its not over til the fat lady sings (or he marries her). You've gone this far. Try to ride it out further. Odd that he says he is going to do something but does not follow thru. There still is a long road to the divorce and remarriage for him and he has not taken anymore steps in that direction. I would think if he is truly dedicated, he would be running up that road. Hang in there.

ATW, <P>I think your son is in excellent hands. I think you are stronger and more loving than your H could possibly imagine. He really doesn't know what he's missing. <P>God has a plan for you ATW. He has always been at your side and will see you through any situation. You have so much to offer to all of us and you have given so much to all of us. We are the ones honored to know YOU.<P>Stay strong. You and your son are in my prayers.<P>SHA

You are in my prayers.

You guys are the best. I'm really doing okay. Had a rough spot with my son tho. He seemed okay (?) when I told him about the divorce and he reacted as if his head was on his shoulders. But I later found out he diappeared for awhile making his friends nervous. He told them he went out riding and considered wrapping the car around a tree. Instead he ended up at the park and sat and thought. I am staying close to him now. Emailed H and told him his son is flesh and blood and raw emotion and he deserves a face to face instead of the coldness of email. I didn't want to get *****y but it was hard. Also asked him what to do with his things.<BR><BR>Fighter, i know what you are saying, but I really don't think I want this person back. So maybe the fat lady has sung for me. I am ready to move on. <BR><BR>How do I thank you all? I love you.

Against the Wind - I share your sadness at the outcome of your story. You did everything you could and showed an incredible amount of strength and grace. I know that your life will change, but it will also continue to get better, the stronger you get. I pray that God's peace will be with you as you reclaim your life. Rest assured, there will come a day when your H will realize what he threw away, and he will regret his treatment of you. It takes time for the pain of guilt and regret to surface, but surface it does. By that time, you will be well on your way to a much better life, one that you can be proud of. Be very proud of yourself, and take comfort in the knowledge that you did not betray yourself or your marriage, and that knowing this will give you the peace of mind that you deserve. You have a strong foundation on which to rebuild a new life for yourself. My prayers are with you that you continue your journey. I have survived this nightmare, and know that you will, too. Best wishes to you and your son. Please keep posting here and let us know how things are going. With love and prayers - Marsha

ATW, moving on is the best thing. getting on with life and looking to what you want to do, is the only thing you can do. If you can, stay out of relationships. Iknow its' difficult to go it alone but your son needs you right now and There is still some hesitation on your part concerning the future of you husband and you.

fighter, I unerstand your concern, but I really can't see waiting any longer for someone who is quite clear in his decision. I don't know if I could take him back after all the disrespect to me and our son. Myabe down the line, who knows.<BR><P><BR>I am already getting slowly involved with someone who I have known for many years. He has been patient and kind and cares for my<BR><BR> son's emotional state. It's been so long (<BR><BR> almost a year without a man's companionship, not to mention sex. but I am trying to kep my eyes wide open and feel I know enough about my emotions to deal with this. <p>[This message has been edited by Against the Wind (edited August 24, 1999).]

ATW, I wish you and your son the best. Hopfully this new guy will live up to your expectations. If you are not really certain about the divorce, you can always file for a separation. <BR>The important thing is that you have to do what is right for you. I know that sounds selfish but you are a good person and need to protect that part of you from further hurt. Look for the rapid 180 from your H. Just when things start going good again they have a way of coming back. My W did after 2.5 months and that was the first time I really got mad at her. Anew sunrise on a new day and there they are casting a shadow. Ugh. <BR>With this new relationship, take it slow and be careful. you don't need anymore heartbreak. This early stage would be a good time to set some groundrules. If it does not work out, there will be others.<BR>Take care ATW; you and your son.