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You have spent 16 years together, thus, you ARE meant to be.
You can not be inspired while you stoke another relationship with another man.
Come clean to your husband about the coworker and about how you feel uninspired with the marriage right now.
Openness and honesty are very intimate with a spouse.
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Blackbirdfly:
I will correspond with you and your husband by email from now on to provide advice and encouragement as you face this very difficult situation. As you already know, my position is that you should separate into different houses, you should report what happened to the authorities (police and social services), and your husband should begin a program designed to help people who engage in sexual misconduct. I know for a fact that your husband is very sincere about putting this life behind him, but unless his past behavior is exposed to those who know what to do with it (police and social services), his willingness to change will not lead to an actual change.
Best wishes,
Dr. Harley This is what Dr. Harley recommended. Are you in contact with Dr. Harley and following his guidance?
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