Originally Posted by MelodyLane
One of the most important things you can do is to expose his affairs wide and far. *YOU* should tell his friends and family, not him. YOU should tell your children alone. And yes, they should know the details of the affair and the persons NAME. This woman is the enemy of their family so they have a full right to know this.


They should know because she has pretended to be a family friend and they cannot live under that delusion any longer. It is appalling what they have done with no regard to the children's friendships and the security of the family and they should apologise to the children for that.

We are talking about addicts and she is not above going through them to send your H a sly reminder of the A.

BS's are also frequently astonished that after wrangling with the decision of how much to tell, their children know more than they do. It is very common for children to be much less blind to the A, and for the WS to be careless about what they see. The WS knows at all times to bluff the BS and to watch the BS, but they do not bluff the children.

My young relatives saw the APs holding hands in a crowded street and had been wracked with guilt because of it. They hadn't known what to make of it or whether to tell me. Thanks to exposure I relieved them of that burden.

What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.