I went to get ad. Had my husband drive me to juneau urgent care. When I got there she demanded an id. Without which they won't help me. And then she said no guarantee if I will even get an ad prescribed. Will get a dr appt tomorrow

And I have downloaded the book.

Oh my god can someone please send this link of gaslight ing to my husband I read three and stopped. Exactly freaking exactly of how he played me. Told me I was mad need a physiatrist. That I had a personality disorder. He requested me to check for bipolar. And yes he said am I not allowed to have friends this is he'll I am in , when I demanded his Caribbean fone handset said I was breathing on his neck. Absolute gas lighting to perfection. Told employees I will pay u more money do t tell my wife because she doesn't understand the business's. We r talking thousands of dollars here. Told them not to argue with me because I was unforgiving and had a bad temper. Wowwwwww. Could go on for ever. Can u one of you pls mention gas lighting to him

Blind sighted can u explain to my husband about gas lighting

GOOD for both of you that you did this Gkumarswife! GREAT JOB! You both worked together and tried to make your situation better.

Yes, in the US most places do demand an ID in order to prescribe anything. Do you have an ID?

If so, and if you are reading this by chance before you are back home, you can get your ID and go to an emergency room.

Will you do this?

Yes, we will certainly explain to your H about gas lighting.

But HE IS NOT DOING THIS NOW, and so if we explain right this second, it is not going to help your marriage.

You need to focus on what is right now, today. Your husband did come home and did take you to the clinic to try to get you help.

PLEASE can the two of you start reading the book, Surviving an Affair, that you downloaded?

I would suggest that you get the kids into bed together, and then you go into bed and begin reading Surviving an Affair together. Each of you read a page out loud and whenever one of you wants to stop to talk, you do it.

It took us WAY too long to get through that book when we were reading it, and we actually got chastised on our threads, but the reason that it took us sooooo long is that we stopped every few paragraphs and talked, talked talked about it.

I will write to dr Harley. Yes I will go with an iid tomorrow for meds. I have the book on my fone and have downloaded on his kindle. Now I hope he truly truly reads each word. That's up to him now. I told him this won't work if he Is going to flirt lech on another women behind my back or to my face. Says won't do it because it hurts me. I't hurts me that he won't do it because it hurts me. Would be nicer if he didn't do it because he lived me or said that it's not who he wants to be. I find this process of getting all wrong answers so exhausting. I pointed out to him. He felt I was dissecting his words. I a. Not. I just want to hear the right word for on e. Not hear it after I ask him to say it this way.

I need your views. Ur opinions. I and my husband just had an argument. We were very non communicative thru the evening had our dinner. Husband got bk at nine and by ten we were ready to out the kids to bed. We both sat and read saa separately on our own. My husband in the past has stolen money from business without my knowledge to finance his keeps gifts to give his whore and escorts the fees so I wondered where was he withdrawing the cash from for his daily expenses. I asked that and then added hope he is not swindling or stealing money from the business. To which he sounded upset. Said was very derogatory and insulting and decided to leave. And not talk about it further. I then insisted I need to know about it. And according to him which was wrong he as usuall used smart words and a calm tone and asked me to curse him. So I said u r doing this as usuall instigating me to get upset. By now I was yelling as he was walking away and says it was the past. But I need to know. I asked him what does he do in the mornings. Does he use money to call his keep or in the evenings after I leave work. Because that's wht they have do e in the past. I even added that I will add to the forum how he chose to escape and not answer my questions even though two hours back promised to take the blows. But now refuses to answer and leave. Calls my tone wrong first then says both the tone and subject is wrong. He said if I throw this question out to u all I will be told I am wrong. And I need to know asking him about how he is taking funds out is wrong ..... So far he had full access to all personal and business money. And he misused and swindled them. Stole them. I also added to expose this to his business associates. To which he refused. Since some r our vendors he added this could make them nervous. Was that not the clause in the book. Complete exposure. He doesn't want complete exposure. If I ask him is he still stealing money or what he does after I leave is he still in touch with her is that wrong. Pls give me ur views

He left me upset and did not choose to talk. This is what I mean when he just gives me false words and nothing beyond that.

Great! Getting to the doctor is most important today. Do you agree?

Have you started reading it? You both need to read it. What did you think of the first chapter?

Can you take some time and write out a list of every single question you have regarding the finances and your husband's illicit sexual activities? Write them all down. Take a couple of days to consider what you want to ask.

Then hand him the list of questions for him to answer. He must answer every single one. He can't use the excuse that it's in the past to refrain from answering. Every single question must be answered. He can write the responses down, so you don't forget them.

Then schedule a polygraph so you can verify his answers.

You should be allowed full technical access to all the business bank accounts and records for the rest of your lives together, so you can see for yourself what's going on.

Now....after all your questions are answered and the polygraph completed, you must never bring it up again. IF you decide to recover your marriage, bringing it up will only serve to bring the horrible past into the present. And the only way to get over your resentment is to make the present much much better than the past.

You simply must stop arguing and fighting with your husband. It will not solve your problems. Your anger, which is understandable, will only make your problems worse.

Even if you decide to leave your H, bringing up the past again and again will make you miserable and drive away your friends. Making your present great is the only way to overcome resentment, whether you recover your marriage or not.

Blindsighted's advice to you is perfect. Get yourself to the doctor today and get that prescription.

And start reading SAA together.

I have gotten past five chapters on the book

WOW WOW WOW!!!!

Was I wrong I. Questioning if he is still stealing that money. Was he wrong or right in walking away and asking me to curse him.

Like he said both my tone and my subject is wrong. Is he right in saying that

Your H needs to give you full access to all bank and business records and be completely transparent with you in all financial, and other, matters. In marriage, there is no place for secrecy.

Do you have full access yet?

If not, there's no point in asking him if he's stealing anything. Get full access and look at everything.

If your H doesn't like your tone, heed that and change your tone to a pleasant one.

The subject is fine. Everything in your lives should be an open book. But don't ASK him if he's stealing. Look at the records yourself.

My business involves a lot of cash. When the business day ends I am not at work. It is very easy for him to evade a bill or two. Show that the transaction never happened and pocket the cash. He has done this repeatedly for many years. So far I have never withdrawn cash even though I make same amt of money. I have simply gone and asked him for money and he hands me some He has never asked me for money. He picks it out of the cash register or accounts where ever he pleases from. Even now he has full access as business closes much after I leave work. And it's very very easy for him to simply rip a bill and show that never happened and pocket the money.