Hi everyone, Good evening ... or good morning to those friends from the other side!!<P>Crushed - So glad you are finding yourself and liking her ... I feel the same. I'm not sure if they have a 12 steps for cleaners though!!!<P>Medic - You're good at this one!!! LOL, I love the tip about the shirts in the dryer ... gonna try that one myself!! Thanks for always making me laugh. (I did feel a bit sad that you've resorted to calling Val a little B!t@h though, doesn't sound like you )<P>SDS - So glad you came back. The career move sounds great. Losing weight ... I think we've all experienced that one - the one thing in all this that helps boost our self esteem, not flatten it! My H has noticed my new body - I've seen the way he looks at me when he doesn't think I'm watching, when he comes to pick up the kids - and I KNOW he likes what he sees. I also get second looks walking down the street, which I never did before .... I like it!!!!!!<P>Hi bonnet - we've not met before. Another fellow Aussie ... I met Raenbow a few days ago, she's another one of us. I'm from out West though. Bit of a bummer being so far away from your H, must be hard to get a break from the kids. Still, Brisbane is beautiful, or was 10 years ago when I went to visit. By the way, none of this is selfish - it's just looking for the positive in a painful situation. I don't think any of us in this forum has not given our best to restore our marriages - unfortunately, someone just forgot to enlighen our partners!!!<P>RWD - Hope you haven't resorted to Pop Tarts and bacon like Sweetie!!! Know what you mean by long showers, one of my weakness's too.<P>Hi again nlitend.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>Congrats to us all. I doubt any of us asked to be where we're at, but we're survivors and we will prosper in the future. Either our spouses will come to their senses, or some lucky people are going to have their lives blessed by meeting up with us at some point in the future. Either way, we will be enriched as well.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You said it all. <P>

Hi pondpj - didn't forget you, we just must have been posting at the same time!! Have a nice Tuesday

Okay, I messed up again and did ANOTHER double post! <P><p>[This message has been edited by sosad (edited November 09, 1999).]

Great idea, Sosad. Here's mine:<P>- I made a 'best friend' at work. First really good friend I've made since I married H 21 years ago. He has always been very possessive of me & my time, & we never made any close friends, as a couple.<P>- I've gotten to know my little sister a lot better.<P>- I'm setting some serious goals so that I can make my life better. I want to change jobs and move. Pretty scary, but I am determined to succeed.<P>- I have a chance to re-evaluate whether this is truly the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.<P>- This has opened my eyes to the fact that I have not been happy for a very long time. H is not meeting any of my needs.<P>- I have a greater appreciation for the little things in life.<P>- I've come to know some really great people on this board!!

Hi Sidney, glad you could join us.<P>A few of your words said it all for me...<BR>----re-evaluate, determined, succeed, appreciation-----<P>Way to go Sidney