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I cannot change the email until tommorrow when the school is open. But I will. I will have to find a new job and resign the one I have which I mentioned may take some time. So I guess I am at a standstill until that happens... How come when we asked you if you had changed all your contact information, we were told you had changed all contact information except your number and now this? What other means did you communicate with OM? Facebook or any other social media? Work email?
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No I did say the email but I never thought it was an issue until Friday after the cheaterville thing. I did I not mention it tonight and I did not mean to mislead anyone I knew there were three things left on the list.
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No I did say the email but I never thought it was an issue until Friday after the cheaterville thing. I did I not mention it tonight and I did not mean to mislead anyone I knew there were three things left on the list. Okay so email and number changed tomorrow? How soon can you find another job? Have you started to look? Any other means of communication?
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No other means. I will do those tommorrow but the job will not be quick. I have a contract here for eight more weeks. Not to mention there is only one hospital within an hour of my house and even of I can work there I will have to do nights there as well. When you start a nursing job you nearly always do nights.
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No other means. I will do those tommorrow but the job will not be quick. I have a contract here for eight more weeks. Not to mention there is only one hospital within an hour of my house and even of I can work there I will have to do nights there as well. When you start a nursing job you nearly always do nights. You will face a choice of your marriage or your job.
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Great idea! I will do that.
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I guess everyone here must be wealthy. I must work. I live in a riural area the pay is horrible and the jobs are few. When I tell you I would quit tommorrow I am truthful but I am the steady income.
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Great idea to ask dr harley about cheaterville.
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I guess everyone here must be wealthy. I must work. I live in a riural area the pay is horrible and the jobs are few. When I tell you I would quit tommorrow I am truthful but I am the steady income. Well your guess is incorrect. I am not wealthy by any monetary standards. If you dont want to quit your job then dont. It's your marriage and your life. But if you want to follow Dr. Harley's program for surviving an affair you will need to change jobs and never spend a night apart from your husband
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You are absolutely right.
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Great idea to ask dr harley about cheaterville. Did you ever get the chance to listen to those radio clips of Dr. Harley talking about those kind of websites?
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No but I did write him today to see if he has any good ideas about the shift work.
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No but I did write him today to see if he has any good ideas about the shift work. So then don't leave the forum until you've heard back from Dr. Harley. Is it possible for you and your husband to move to an area where employment options are better? It sounds like both of you would benefit from a better job market so you could pay your bills and have greater flexibility to support your marriage. You are in a profession where this demand. I know of a lot of nurses who do well working fewer shifts a week. If you can do this in a location where the pay is better, you will have more time to spend with your family and husband and can improve your marriage.
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I would love to move but my husband has a State Farm...it is nearly impossible to transfer.
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I would love to move but my husband has a State Farm...it is nearly impossible to transfer. Marie - Just wondering what a "State Farm" is?
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You are not going to make it. Your marriage, IF it continues, will limp along as a crippled version of what it was before your affair.
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Also, I know you mentioned you are an LDRP nurse, have you looked at other area's of nursing that may give you an opportunity to be at home? I know here in Canada, nurses with experience are always in demand, and the experience doesn't nessecarily have to be within your "specialty" .
You said you worked at a rural hospital ~ what about homecare? Case management that sort of stuff, that could allow you to be home at night?
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I would love to move but my husband has a State Farm...it is nearly impossible to transfer. Marie - Just wondering what a "State Farm" is? Her BH previously posted that he is an insurance agent for State Farm, an American Insurance company
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Prisca we are going to make it. Our marriage is already 100 percent better then it ever has been. This affair was a horrible experience for my family and I am so sorry I put everyone through it but it woke both my husband and I up to how much we were neglecting the important things. Now I am sure you will all find a way to trace this statement back to me maintaining an ongoing affair with the OM but I realized after spending three days on this forum it
Is not good for me. I know what is true why do I care this group believes about me?
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Prisca we are going to make it. Our marriage is already 100 percent better then it ever has been. This affair was a horrible experience for my family and I am so sorry I put everyone through it but it woke both my husband and I up to how much we were neglecting the important things. Now I am sure you will all find a way to trace this statement back to me maintaining an ongoing affair with the OM but I realized after spending three days on this forum it
Is not good for me. I know what is true why do I care this group believes about me? I dont know why you would care. However, it is important to note that you had an affair because of your poor boundaries around men. "Neglecting important things" did not make you have an affair.
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