How long has he had this new psychologist? Is there any reason why he got a new one? How involved were you in his previous treatment?

Would you answer this?

I don't think you are wrong to ask those questions but I think it is a waste of time and you are deluding yourself.

Agreed.

I am a caregiver - one of my sons has severe autism. It is draining.

I cannot imagine willingly volunteering for a life like this. If this man has a 500 page history of psychiatric problems, then you are deluded to think that you can fix this in any way.

Some people are simply too sick to sustain lasting relationships (marriage, family, friends), and trying to "rescue" will leave you depressed, suicidal, and will ruin your life.

Sacrificing yourself for someone who is too sick to care about you has NEVER worked.

He's only been with the new psychologist a matter of weeks. The one he used to be with when he was younger is 3 hours away from us so that's why the change. That and he just got back on his disability benefits. I wasn't involved in his previous treatment because I didn't know him then.

When it comes to the emotional needs, it depends on the day and what I wake up with in terms of how he is doing etc. Granted, it has been a tad better in the last two weeks thanks to him being on a CPAP machine due to his severe sleep apnea. When I say a tad, I only mean just a tad.

I know I can't change or fix anything but I'd like to help him manage everything better. But I am not trained to do that and he resistant to assistance from anyone non-professional (even from me).

Oh it is beyond draining. He only has a handful symptoms from the pervasive developmental disorder tree but everything compiled together is a huge undertaking.

I love him. But between being scared that our kids will inherit his issues and I will be left caring for multiple people like this, let alone the lack of sexual activity of any kind between us and everything together, I am not sure how long to wait to see if anything becomes more manageable. My heart is breaking.

I wish him nothing but the best and I wish him no harm. I love him. But I don't want to abandon him either. Oklahoma doesn't have the best at-home care systems and the disability care system, particularly the mental side of it, is very poor. To abandon him would be to condemn him to a bad result of some kind.

I don't know what to do anymore.

ADDENDUM:
I found some messages on his FB. Yeah. I am done first opportunity. He told a girl about our issues in the bedroom and then stated 'too bad you dont sext or anything'.
I am done. I can't trust him. He tried that 'I was hacked' thing again.***EDIT*** SO angry.

Lost, I do hope you mean that. I worked with mental health (crisis work and then policing), we always tried to convey one thing above all else - mental health does not permit abuse. You and your marriage is constantly abused. And quite frankly, mental health issues don't cause him to do be a pig on FB. He has grown accustomed to you accepting his constant abuse. This won't stop until you stop being an enabler. File on Monday before you ruin your life, seriously.

I don't have the funds currently and all that stuff. It takes 250$ to self file in Oklahoma as of a few years ago So it's going to take some time.

Go to the nearest Woman's Shelter.... They can and do file for women. Try to use this resource as it is your quickest & safest way out. They are super nice- just go or call them & they will pick you up.