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I have a question regarding when I should introduce WW the book by Dr. Harley.
A lot of things happened and things changed for the better in the last two weeks. We are talking about reconciliation but I want to make sure that I do everything to give us the best chance to survive the affair. WW has been reading some articles from the site. But I am thinking of getting the book "Surviving Infidelity" so that its not me telling my WW what to do but an expert telling her what she needs to do to heal us and to move on to the reconciliation process.
Should I go ahead and have her read the book now? Or should I continue to negotiate with her.
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I want to make sure that I do everything to give us the best chance to survive the affair. "Everything possible" includes exposing the affair to your children. Have you done that? What did you say?
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Is she still working with OM? I don't know why you would have brought her to MB if she is still in her affair.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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No, now is not the time to give your wife any of the books. Before you do anything else, you need to answer this question. Have you told your children she is having an affair, and who with? I'm just going to keep posting this over and over again until we get a straight answer. There is no point in saying much else to you. After that, I am going to go back to the rest of that post and just keep posting that over and over until you take that step. There is no point to much else if you are going to ignore most of what we say to you. You might as well give up or prepare for divorce. Or prepare for hospitalization in the funny farm.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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