It should be that the only problem TSM has with MB is that of putting the children first.

Instead, he has documented for us multiple love busters in the form of angry outbursts and independent behaviors, seeing OW i.e. a revenge affair, and now moving in with a girlfriend i.e. becoming a practicing renter. How any of this is following MB is beyond me. Marriage Builders is not just some set of abstract principles that one can claim an allegiance to and then totally ignore in any practical sense. That is what TSM wants to do. So, the entire debate about putting children before spouses is academic, because TSM hasn't put his children first, either. His behavior demonstrates that. Dr. Harley would disagree with just about everything this guy has done. There is little point to debating this. This forum is about helping people put MB principles into practice, not about abstract discussions on principles with no actual intent on application.