You are right Reading, as usual.

It broke my heart because it didn't have to happen. Such a waste. If you could have seen us even just a couple of months before this....

Oh well. I didn't choose it. He is free to ruin his own life, it just isn't fair to my baby.

So here is one thing that a few of us have learned recently that the vets might want to consider: apparently you can pay $200 and get a post removed from Cheaterville without arbitration.

So, I would recommend also posting on liarschearsrus, badboyreport, playerblock, shesahomewrecker and cheater registry all at the same time. I assume one can still pay to get these removed...but then it becomes super time consuming and expensive to do so. And I also assume that there is varying degrees of difficulty around getting these removed.

War. Use overwhelming force.

^Agree.

I think it's amusing that the OW in your situation went through all of the effort to figure out that you can pay for removal. OM and WW in my situation are furious about his Cheaterville post and yet it's still up. I guess they are just less motivated.

PlayerBlock does work, by the way. OM in my situation mentioned specifically "getting calls/texts from random people harassing me" as a complaint in his restraining order he filed (which was dismissed). I got a pretty good chuckle out of it.

Thanks for letting us all know.

She sounds like a feisty one!

Now that IS disappointing. However with such a need for exposure in the world surely a site will realise they need to meet that need properly sooner or later.

Thanks for that. Somehow I had missed cheater registry. I remedied that just now.

Nice

On a positive note, if the AP pays to have their name removed from CV, then it's a pretty sure bet they are uncomfortable with it, so we can be sure that it hit its mark and that they're equally distraught over the other sites that aren't as easy to be removed from...

After I put the AP on badboyreport.kr, she shut her Facebook account down. Coincidence?

By the way, PW, I searched your H's AP's name on Google, and her exposure site hits are bunched together on the second page. Very hard to miss!

Yes nmwb77, I checked this morning and saw that. LOL.

The only thing about the other sites is that their search engine optimization is not as good. Cheater Registry doesn't even show up in the engine...BUT they allow you to post phone numbers, so even if playerblock gets taken down its still up on Cheater Registry.

Anyway, I can't even imagine the conflict this is causing between them. He probably will not lift a finger to help her (yeay!).

Also, my OW deactivated her inane tumblr page (which she used to send me thinly veiled messages about her victory with man-stealing) and set her facebook page and instagram to private.

PW, how was your weekend? Did you have some fun? No drama with child exchanges?

My weekend was good. It always feels weird to me to be away from my daughter for more than one day, but it was ok. I went to a potluck with a friend, and I sort of feel weird when talking about my daughter because people assume I am married (which I still am, but obviously not in the normal sense). I went to a MOPs (mothers of preschoolers) meeting the other day and had the same experience when the women went around the table talking about their husbands. I just said, "I am separated from my husband because he was unfaithful and right now the plan is to file for divorce as soon as I am able to." Of course, that starts a whole conversation, which I am fine with, but yeah, being a single, almost-divorced parent is a little strange. I have only received support, but I need to get a bit used to it.

But other than that, it was great. Lots of good food and friends over the weekend.

So drama...no, not really. I didn't have anyone to be my physical IM when he dropped her off (I tried, but my dad is traveling and my physical IM was not in town). So when he came to the door, I just stayed behind it completely with my headphones on. Then I just gently closed it when she walked inside. I could not see or hear him and I made sure not to go to the window for at least 10 mins to fully ensure that he was gone. No drama.

Gets it from mama.

Good deal

Ah, deja vu.

^Yep, I deal with this one too.

I married much younger than a lot of the young adults at my church, and now am helping with a college/career/young adults ministry there. Many of the older adults at my church realize my circumstances, but apparently some of the young adults have not and have asked me if I'm married or even about WW in the last couple weeks. That's a fun conversation.

Also many of them are newlyweds which is awkward.

I agree, being at church is a sometimes painful, although for the most part it is a source of comfort and support. The church that I attend is small and I just moved here so I am getting to know people. I am just fully upfront with them about what is going on since I am always just there with my daughter alone.

My church is small, but I live near Saddleback Church (Purpose Driven Life, etc) and they have a very established divorce recovery and single parents ministry, so I am really grateful for that and I think I will find support there. I am fairly sure almost everyone there will have dealt with affairs, addictions and abuse (or some combination of those) and will understand my situation.

The other day at Girl Scouts one of the moms asked me to bring some paperwork home to my wife...I really dont know why people mAke assumptions like thAt anymore.
We have more single homes than married ones, people living together, gay marriage etc. You would think people would not make assumptions but they do.

One thing on the posting conversation we had yesterday--

I looked up the "arbitration" websites and they are basically just ransom sites. You can pay to get a posting taken off a major site for anywhere from between $200-$400 and if you want your entire google search cleaned up you can pay $1,500. So, its expensive, but these guys basically will take money to take down even true stories that are backed by evidence.

This makes sense. I never understood how cheaterville got so many hits after the posting is off the front page. It probably doesn't. They probably have software that simulates hits to the website so that it eventually becomes the first posting in order to make money on take downs.

The other sites probably don't do this, or do a less sophisticated version of it, so that the postings are usually not on the front page.

Don't fret about cheaterville etc anymore.

You have flung your canons into the air and have gone to a new land to thrive.

Now. Thrive. (I like putting a hair band on my wrist to snap when turning thoughts to ruminate about the situation of a marriage turned sour).