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@Indiegirl.....that is what doing....and the job thing I'm looking but can't find nothing....but i am looking
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@Indiegirl......she is not asking me quit...i just am
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Exactly!
Tell us about your daily Plan A efforts if you want coaching.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I just did that right now....quit tattooing
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No - how are you meeting her ENs, avoiding lovebusters, possibly discussing job options with her?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I had an affair while i was writhing at the shop...i have another job to support my family, i quit tattooing so i can focus on me and us and my family....it wasn't her choice it was mine......avoiding love busters...Don't understand....and its kinda hard to do that when she won't talk to me about anything
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Are you OK? Can you function and are you eating and sleeping?
You may need ADs for a time. This isn't a cakewalk.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Not eating sleeping the way i should...but am.
We are still talkin . And i even drove to her when she told me her back was burting just to rub her back ,didnt ask for anything else. Slept on the couch. Stayed the night last night because of the snow, was there with my daughters, cleaned the house did the dishes and laundry for her. Didnt ask for anything in return, got up left after saying good bye to her and my daughter the other was at work. Thanked her for.letting me stay told her i loved her she said it back....i am hoping its a good sign, and if im trying to hard or not hard enough, to prove i want to change the way i was not only for her and my family, but for me also
And yes i have an app for a councelor wed
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Not eating sleeping the way i should...but am.
We are still talkin . And i even drove to her when she told me her back was burting just to rub her back ,didnt ask for anything else. Slept on the couch. Stayed the night last night because of the snow, was there with my daughters, cleaned the house did the dishes and laundry for her. Didnt ask for anything in return, got up left after saying good bye to her and my daughter the other was at work. Thanked her for.letting me stay told her i loved her she said it back....i am hoping its a good sign, and if im trying to hard or not hard enough, to prove i want to change the way i was not only for her and my family, but for me also
And yes i have an app for a councelor wed What are her top ENs? What are you doing to meet them? Will she let you take her out on a date?
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Top ENs? Don't understand....i don't know if she will leery me take her out on a date...little scared to ask and be rejected....but want to...
And yes the counceler told me i need meds....so i am going to take them been angry too long and Need to be fixed
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BW-27
FWH-31
DS-6
Married several years
D-Day- 11/22/13
Plan A+Exposure
NC+Beginning of Recovery-04/2014
In Recovery and happier and more in love than ever
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Top ENs? Don't understand....i don't know if she will leery me take her out on a date...little scared to ask and be rejected....but want to...
And yes the counceler told me i need meds....so i am going to take them been angry too long and Need to be fixed Yes ENs= emotional needs like WoundedNotBroken said. Good that you will start the meds. Also, have you listened to all the clips in here? Anger Management 101
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Kinda hard to find out what they are when she won't till me anything at all......and when we do talk all she gives me is attitude
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Kinda hard to find out what they are when she won't till me anything at all......and when we do talk all she gives me is attitude Have you read this? The Most important Emotional Needs While you were married could you not tell what her top ENs are?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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