He could send you a check or a grocery store gift card even if he was serious about helping you. I would not give him your SSN or even DDs (good if he is too lazy to look for them or has no document to refer to them.) He may want them to file taxes.

I would not want him controlling my medical coverage either. You would be at his mercy if he stopped paying the premiums and it would keep a door of contact open.

Nice!

He sent over a message that he bought her coverage (on he last day of open enrollment) so he must have found her SSN somewhere. I just got these messages this morning and now open enrollment is closed, so yeah. Even if I had wanted him to buy my insurance, its too late now. I am just going to wait on the medi-cal and see if I get it. I'll just need it for a few months before I get a new job.

Now I wonder if he got her coverage here in southern cal or in northern cal? Should I ask this? I could imagine he got her coverage with whatever address he is using and bought himself coverage as well.

The employment offered health insurance policies that I searched when I was offering insurance to my employees was based on either the Individual Coverage only, or Family Coverage. You didn't pick and choose which family members were included or excluded for the Family Coverage.

LTL

I would have IM request that he forward DD's healthcard. He would even get a temporary card or online document of some sort with info if there is any coverage/enrollment. WH would have to provide this to you in a divorce.

Even w/o the D filed, a medical provider can't bill the insurance with no info should DD need treatment. I don't think there is a difference in coverage by being in the north vs the south. The carrier would provide state and out-of-state network coverage.

If he doesn't cough over a card or document to show enrollment while waiting to get the permanent card then I would assume he is full of it.

No, this is not employer coverage. It is covered california (obamacare) because his job doesn't provide insurance.

Also, you usually can exclude family members. You can have just yourself and kids and exclude a spouse (some people do this if their spouses have insurance through their own jobs).

And yes, managed care is location based. That is the whole rational of an HMO. I can't go to a physician out of network. The networks are location based. Covered CA plans are HMOs. I had this issue when my daughter was born because my HMO was in San Francisco and hers was in Oakland. Its a long story, but they tried to make me pay a bunch of money for my daughter's care in SF after she was born.

The coverage wouldn't start until March, so I'll have my IM request a card then.

In the meantime, my kid and I should qualify for Medi-Cal, so I should be fine. And I will get good coverage with a job. I wasn't worried about it in the first place really. He volunteered, which is fine. Now let's see if he follows through.

I have never heard of such a thing. Glad I never had to deal with this. Sounds crazy and dumb.

California is crazy and dumb. It's a big state, so that is part of it. The only thing he could have possibly done that would bypass this is get her Kaiser, which you can use out of your region. It's a possibility.

Honestly though, its better to get her medi-cal here anyway in case he loses is job or moves without a job. I am pretty sure I'll have a job in a few months, so I am not too worried. I have prospects at two great companies, both of which have great perks like gyms and on-site daycare and such. Either would be great.

Indiegirl,

I tried to notify the admins about getting your email. I am not sure if I am doing it wrong. However, please feel free to get mine from the admins if you are still willing to be an IM for me.

Thanks!

I have asked that you be given my email and still nada.

I will. Haven't seen anything.

OW got a lawyer to send me a cease and desist letter for the internet exposure threatening criminal and civil action.

LOL since you are done exposing her, it doesn't matter anyway but you can smile that you obviously got to her.

I know...it's silly. I have contacted her exactly once to tell her to leave my husband alone.

Blah. It's dumb.

I really want my lawyer to tell him that I am filing for divorce at this point, but I know that would be dumb. I'm not sure why he thinks I would just want to do a post-nup at this point.

Funny thing--the letter mentioned ruining her academic reputation...so her academic advisors did that anonymous cheaterville post then. Lol.

I think actions are what ruin a reputation. You didn't ruin anyone's reputation. All you did was let people know what kind of person she is.

Agreed nmwb77! The only thing this did was made me even more angry and disappointed with WH for giving her my address.

How did your thing go by the way? did the judge throw it out?

My thing is still ongoing. Turns out it's an actual defamation lawsuit. But it also turns out I have an umbrella policy that will pay my legal expenses, hopefully for a verrrrrry thorough discovery process. She's going to regret it when all is said and done.

I hear ya on this one. It was clear from reading the paperwork from the RO the OM in my situation filed that my WW had provided him a substantial amount of information about me.

I think the fact that it's an actual lawsuit makes your odds better. Lawsuits of this nature are usually expensive and lengthy and it's hard to imagine OW will have the determination required to see it through. She's probably hoping you will settle rather than fight it.